Gate 19 in Human Design
Just because your words, presence and energy heals, doesn’t necessarily mean that everyone should have access to it.
Hi loves
I recently read the above sentiment and it felt very resonate with this week's energy transit with the Sun moving through Gate 19. As usual, the transits invite us to look within and how this archetypal energy is present within us. This gate brings an energy and highly intuitive, sensitive, empathetically attuned knowing to others. So this one is for my fellow intuitive feelers.
If you are feeling called to read on, I presume that you are someone who is finely attuned to others - their emotions, needs and energy shifts. If someone walks into a room, you can feel almost instantly if something is off. They don’t even have to say anything, and you can feel it. This energetic sensitivity is your superpower, when it is boundaried and balanced.
It feels meaningful for you to help, support and hold space for another’s needs - and you are extremely good at it. While this is a beautiful part of you, it is important to remember that just because you can be there for someone, solve a problem or support them in their process, it doesn’t mean you should always overextend and do all those things. You are not responsible, I repeat, not responsible for other people’s peace and happiness. Especially if you are self-sacrificing yourself in the process. Please please don't put your own needs at the bottom of your priorities.
You only can take on so much. Just because you care, it doesn't mean you should carry all the weight.
What are your core authentic needs? Are they being met?
During this time, take note of any emotional and intuitive senses you are experiencing, especially clarity on your own needs. For many women, we can prioritise other people’s needs and forget to even turn inward and ask what our needs are. And then wonder why we feel unfulfilled in our lives.. You are deserving of your needs to be met. I remember I used to be so shameful of having needs for fear that I would be perceived as “needy”. It meant that I never felt satisfied in my relationships and always felt taken for granted and unappreciated. In reality, I never voiced or acknowledged that I even had needs.
This can be a beautiful time to reflect what your soul needs and desires are in relationships, work and life. Especially in our relationship with ourselves, because this is the foundation of everything. To help, you can ask yourself the below questions:
How do I feel about how I’m currently taking care of myself?
Where do I feel fulfilled most? (How can you maximise and prioritise these more).
Where do I feel empty or burnt out? (How can you minimise these, set healthy boundaries or have honest communication with yourself around why you continue to do these things).
Where would I like to invest my time and energy in more?
What are the top three activities that help me feel grounded and regulated? (How can you incorporate these more).
What are the top three activities that bring me joy and make me feel alive? (Incorporate these into your weekend, week or month).
What activities, beliefs and behaviors am I saying yes to that I’d actually like to let go? (Contributing to what you say you don't want).
What activities, beliefs and behaviors am I saying no to that I’d actually like to adopt?
What boundaries do I need to set to protect my time and myself?
At the end of each day what do I wish I had done? (Less thinking of conditioned efficiency and productivity, and more about what makes you feel alive, nourished and fulfilled).
When it comes to the energy of this week, it is asking us to reflect on where we are energetically being leaky and not honouring our own emotional wellbeing. You may need to establish boundaries most importantly with yourself - what you are willing and not willing to take on. We don’t want to get to the place of creating co-dependent, reliant relationships or feeling emotionally burnt out - it will just lead you on a fastback to your Not Self of frustration, bitterness, resentment or anger. It can also blur the lines of your own personal identity and mean that you are unsure of what is yours and what is theirs.
Remember that you don't need to self sacrifice for the sake of your work or relationships. Be your own support person my love.
Love, Hillary xx
