What even is Human Design?
Even as a Human Design Teacher, this is still hard to answer because no words seem to suffice the deep relief, awareness and knowings that you receive once you understand your Human Design. It’s one of those “need to try it out and you will see” kind of things.
It means different things for different people, and depends on if you lean more into the spiritual or science side of things (or both). Luckily, Human Design serves both.
As someone who loves the practical and esoteric, Human Design scratched my itch when I was asking so many questions and not feeling like I was receiving any answers. It was the first time I felt truly seen and understood. I was equal parts “how does it know so much about me!” and “wow I am really not living a life true to me”. It helped me muster the courage to forgo my legal career for a more aligned, fulfilling path.
I see Human Design as the language and blueprint of your Soul or Highest Self. It shows you how to become the best version of yourself, and how to receive all the fulfilment that is destined for you. Whenever you doubt or second guess your value or what you are here to do in this lifetime, it serves as a reminder of your innate essence and intuitive knowing. It gives you an understanding of your unique gifts, mission, self-expression and way of creating in this world. In other words, you want the tools for how to get to know your “deconditioned” self that isn’t influenced and impacted by generational and societal expectations.
Technically speaking, Human Design is a modality that combines ancient wisdom (Kabbalah, I-ching, Tree of Life, Chakra System, Astrology) & genetic physics to give your master energetic blueprint. At birth, each of us receive our unique Human Design blueprint. Your blueprint captures specific details about what makes you uniquely you: your strengths, your weaknesses, your traits, your energetic needs, your gifts, your intuition, your roles, and many other elements that make up who you are.
For those who lean more into the science side, Human Design gives a practical framework of how to use your energy to create more flow & ease in your life, and less resistance and struggle. It is a system of self awareness, that offers an energetic map of how to move through the world with greater peace, satisfaction, success, surprise & excitement. Essentially to flow with life, rather than forcing, pushing, striving or feeling burnt out in the process. It shows you how to make your best decisions, use your energy to thrive (not just survive), your leadership & creative style and your greatest strengths to leverage in work & life.
It can tell you down to what best environments support you, business structure, who your audience is, your purpose, your life’s theme, how you best communicate, relationship style — honestly the list goes on.This is your life manual of how to create your reality, run your business and thrive in your relationships that actually feels good and manifests what you desire.
Human Design helps the logical conscious mind “make sense” of your intuitive inner landscape and understand how to make the most impact & success in the external. This wisdom creates safety in our body and trust in our inner knowing to follow your intuition and cultivate your unique path. It was created in a time when we have lost that trust and connection with ourselves. Now we have this extremely logical and intricate system to help our conscious mind get on board with what our intuitive body already knows.
Your Human Design is highly individualised for You. It gifts us language and tools for understanding, accepting and celebrating our unique part to play in the world — rather than trying to be something you’re not.
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When I began to live Human Design, everything started to flow. I quit my law career, moved overseas, started my own businesses and lived on the beaches of Mexico, Costa Rica, Spain doing what I love, what fulfills me, and getting paid for it. I am now living on the beautiful Sunshine Coast teaching Human Design in my Advanced Human Design Certification and holding my Rest Assured Retreats.
I am more successful and fulfilled than I thought possible doing the thing that brings me such joy.
My wish is to similarly provide you with the permission to be your most authentic Self and manifest your desires.
I’m here to remind you that what you feel called towards is not only possible, but inevitable if you just start moving.
Every chart and person is SO different, so:
GENERATE YOUR FREE HUMAN DESIGN CHART HERE
Prepare for your life to be changed once you begin your experiment of returning to your most free, authentic self. Human Design will change the way you see yourself and the world around you. You will begin to see life as full of opportunity and possibility, while seeing your power, potential and strengths. Release the pressure of trying to ‘figure life out’ from a heady place (how is that working for you?) and instead, learn to connect and listen to your intuitive knowing, and allow your naturalness and creative force flow from you. This is how you create your own heaven on earth and actually make your desires happen.
Moving through the fear of being seen
You don’t have to bare it all online!
I hear so often, “I really want to get into this work but I am just not the person who wants to speak face to camera or share all my vulnerable life moments”.
And you know what my answer is? (Unlike other coaches that may say you have to!)
“Please don't then!!”
Where did we go so far that we feel like its necessary to bare your heart and soul to absolute strangers on the internet? That in order to “help” people, you have to be so vulnerable and share your most deepest, hardest, challenging and raw moments of your life (cue crying video). Where did this become a prerequisite to being a trustworthy, “authentic person” and a “limiting belief” if you don't do it.
Don't get me wrong, I am all about transparency, authenticity and vulnerability. But you don't owe anyone your full vulnerability and rawest moments.
It makes me sad to think that many incredible women aren't stepping into their purpose for fear that they need to do that.
There is a difference between fear of being seen and wanting to keep your heart protected. There is a difference between sharing something because “it makes you more relatable” vs genuinely wanting to share what you have moved through (because that will never feel forced). If there comes a moment that you WANT to share that - amazing! Go for it!!
But at the end of the day, protect your heart. You don't have to say all the details but share the learnings, realisations, perspectives, process, your wisdom - that you have cultivated from your life experience. People feel the WEIGHT in your words rather than needing to tell them all that you went through to receive that now knowing. This should be more of a priority.
I rarelyyy ever post talking to camera - not because I am afraid of it but because it hasn't really felt natural, so I don't force it. I have always felt like my podcast was more my space. If I do feel called to grab my camera and speak, then I will. But I don't see it as a prerequisite for success & community creation.
Don't let this be a reason to stop you from stepping into this coaching space. You set the expectation of what you are available for!
You can share, be seen, serve in a way that feels true for you!
You never ever ever have to self sacrifice for the sake of success.
Don't let it be the reason you don't start the business or share your wisdom.
So now that's out of the way - do you have a message, deep down desire & mission to help people - there is an element of putting yourself out there and actually sharing that. So if you are afraid of being seen, here are some of my tips:
// Look at where you are judging others or have witnessed judgement of others - when we judge others, it is a reflection of where we judge ourselves and have a shadow of not allowing ourselves to fully express. We never ever want to be on the other end of the judgement that we or others have given. My past self would have 1000% judged me now, because she didn't let herself be authentic or take up space. Until I went inward, healed those shadow aspects, celebrated other people doing the thing I previously judged - did I no longer fear it. I realised that judgement is more about that person, than about me (because I had been the judger before). Talk about FREEING being someone with absolutely no judgement towards others.
// Connect with the inner child of you that is afraid of being seen, misunderstood, rejected and abandoned. I love to use the practice of IFS (that I will be teaching you inside the Certification) to access, heal, and send love to that part of yourself. This is POWERFUL because it gets to the core, root subconscious belief rather than bandaid approach. Your inner child needs to feel safe & protected - how are you helping them feel that?
// Regulate your nervous system before, after and during “being seen”. If you are putting yourself out there, your nervous system and body can go into fight or flight. It can feel like it's safety and survival is threatened because you are going against “the pack” (we need community to survive). So please breathe through it, EFT tapping, saying the sound “voooom” as you tap and regulate your body. Tell yourself “I am safe, I am safe”. Then get support either from nature or a loved on - this gives the feeling of unconditional love & acceptance. Do not, I repeat, do not check your phone, the likes, the reception - it will make it only worse. Celebrate yourself for doing the scary thing, regardless of the reception!
Take it slow, this is big work. Especially if you have a 5 profile line. When you allow yourself to naturally and authentically be seen for your sharings & knowings - you will feel truly FREE and no longer held back. But again, you do not need to feel like you have to be an open book that bares it all! You just do you!
If you want to dive in deeper to moving through the fear of being seen, I recorded a podcast earlier this year below!
Sending so much love!! Honestly so proud of you, I know this work is MASSIVE. Fear of being seen used to be debilitating for me (to the extent that I broke up with my partner, moved overseas and blocked everyone from my home city on instagram so that they couldn't see this new identity and life I was creating). Please don't go to my extremes haha!
If I can do it, so can you!
Let’s bust a myth: the Market is NOT oversaturated
THE MARKET ISN'T OVERSATURATED,
YOUR MIND IS JUST FINDING AN EXCUSE TO STAY THE SAME
Who is guilty of their mind talking them out of something because “so many people are already doing it”, “the market is saturated”, “it's too late - there is too much competition”?
Sound familiar? Been there. And wow, what a little trick your mind is making you believe so you don't step into any form of change. It stops you from doing something that could be incredible for you because of this little fib!
Let me tell you a little something about your brain's RAS system. Whatever you are interested, curious or love, your mind becomes tasked to noticing it so you will see more of it. Your world isn't what is around you, but what you NOTICE. So if you are interested in Human Design, Astrology, Self Development or Coaching - your brain will find it EVERYWHERE. You will think that everyone's news feed looks just like yours. But it isn't!
But there is a reason why you think that it is everywhere - it's not reality, it's your RAS system filtering what is important vs not important to YOU. Have you noticed that when you want a certain object, car, shoe - you begin to notice it everywhere?
It is because your RAS system is noticing it. Not because there is actually anymore of them compared to others. It filters out all the other cars, shows, objects that you don't care about.
So, when it comes to stepping towards your desires - please don't let the reason why you don't because you think “the space is already filled”.
THERE IS SO MUCH DEMAND FOR GOOD HUMAN DESIGN COACHES & GUIDES, AND NOT ENOUGH SUPPLY.
I don't use those capitals lightly!
The market is not too saturated, I repeat it is not. If anything, there is not enough good supply for all the growing demand.
Just because you aren't the first, doesn't mean there isn't space for you. There is billions of people on this planet, and many that will connect directly with how YOU share it.
It is ONLY the beginning for wellness, spirituality, coaching and HD is so incredibly niche. The wellness and spirituality market is BOOMING and predicted to exceed 8.7 TRILLON in 2027. With an estimated 15% of global consumer spending is on wellness related services and products!
For more it is about 90% of my spending haha! If something will make me feel better, flow better or enjoy life more - I am throwing my money at it. Because it is a high value to me - my experiences and enjoyment here!
And I personally believe Human Design is yet to have it's full hay day! But it's coming - more and more people are finding out about it and wanting to know MORE. Human Design is the future!
AI, websites and apps are great to dip your toe in. But there is NOTHING like a human-to-human connected, intuitive, highly practical session or offering. People are craving human-ness, depth, connection, authenticity and tangible guidance that will move the needle forward in their lives. And that's where you can come in.
Being an exceptional coach or reader is so much more than reciting information. I teach Advanced Human Design in an empowered, practical and life-changing way. You will not only learn the science and knowledge of Human Design, but how to intuitively use the system to create massive transformations to all you share the system with.
Think about when you first discovered your Human Design and how life-changing that was - YOU can give that to others!
Then you can go and share it YOUR way. Create books, offerings, courses, apps, products, services - the options are endless. OR it can just be for you and your own enjoyment and enrichment of your life.
What was my most life-changing decision?
No, it's not leaving my law career or moving countries or starting my Human Design business - while I am SO glad I made those decisions.
The biggest and most important decision that led to all the above and brought me so much more was: Choosing to follow my intuition over my mind – and deciding to be decisive!
Not just when it was easy, obvious or uncomplicated. But especially when it was hard, challenging, uncomfortable & shit scary. I always said I was indecisive but really that was a protection mechanism, my emotional authority meant I never felt 1000% sure but that didn't mean I should spend my life sitting on the fence.
My life changed when I decided to finally make the decisions my intuition called me towards, without being certain or 100% sure where it was all going.
I hear this so often, “I feel my gut but my mind talks me out of it.” “I get an intuitive feeling but I don’t really follow it”. Waiting for your mind & intuition to be on the same page will mean you’ll likely wait forever.
There is this idea that following your intuitive call is easy! HELL NO - It's going directly against your conditioning and protection mechanisms that you built up over the years.
Having doubt does not mean it’s the wrong decision. You have two opposing voices - your mind & your intuition. One wanting sameness & the other change.
If you desire change, your mind can’t give you that. It’s wired for sameness & to avoid risk. Change requires risk. So it’ll say, “maybe tomorrow” “not right now” “that’s not possible”. Your mind is full of conditioning and what you have always done - and when I decided to no longer live in fear, lack & smallness - my life transformed.
Only your intuition can guide you towards that change. The best decision you’ll ever make is to start experimenting with following your intuition. Everything good, explorative, fulfilling and enriching comes from this place. And often, it is behind a fear - it is the human initiation into becoming the person who creates & aligns with what you want.
You don’t need to “wait” until you are braver, more knowledgeable, more fit, more confident, more {fill in the blank}. The feelings & peace you’re seeking doesn’t come from becoming something else, but becoming more of who you actually are. All of you.
If you’re here, you probably have a growth mindset. But where are you creating blocks & barriers for your own growth?
Where do you not let yourself take the leap and do the thing your body & soul WANT?
7 years into my Human Design Experiment
I am so unbelievably grateful for my past self who did the scary things. I remember sitting in my 9-5 law cubicle (in reality, 7-7), feeling like my soul was being sucked out of my body. I desired change & knew life had to be for something “more”, but it felt too far out of reach.
I was so scared, nervous and apprehensive to make the change. But I couldn't ignore that inner call within me - and I am SO glad I didn't!
When I started my Human Design experiment and actually started to decondition - I see it as the moment I became the active and intentional creator of my life.
I released the pressure to know exactly why I was feeling called to where I was being called and instead, I broke it down step by step, and followed my intuition & curiosities.
I flew across the world & invested in learning Human Design - a modality I loved, had been deeply impacted by and spoke to every person who would listen about it! It was a future career that felt for the first time, truly intuitively aligned. (Now you have this Certification that has EVERYTHING you would ever need so you don't have to go to the extreme lengths & investments I went to study this system). I was still scared but I remember feeling a wave of excitement, adrenaline & pride for starting to create movement of what I knew I was here for: to help guide people in the way I wish I had been supported.
Human Design gave me the practical framework to be able to guide clients through BIG transformations. And now, I have a business that gives to me more than Law ever did or could. I earn more and feel way more fulfilled.
Now, thousands of incredible humans have flowed through my sessions, courses, workshops, Retreats, Certification & community. I dreamed of this: feeling in my purpose, doing exactly what I am meant to be doing, so much financial freedom & abundance, and serving incredible people. I attribute all that I have created and this fulfillment to Human Design.
As coaches, I believe it is imperative to understand someone’s HD before giving guidance professionally. It gives us a framework that will leave people in dumbfounded that you can articulate and see what they are moving through, better than they could themselves.
HD takes out the guesswork - it provides direct access & language to help your clients understand, accept & celebrate what makes them unique in this world. Leaving them feeling so seen and supported - and you being a must-have leader in your spaces.
I am very excited for our upcoming Advanced Human Design Certification cohort. I teach you the practical tools, theory & structure that also encourages your own intuitive movement within.
You will learn everything you need to know to start sharing Human Design professionally & in your own personal journey. And I can 1000% guarantee you will feel prepared and supported in building your business and your relationship to yourself will massively and positively change. It never ceases to amaze me the transformations that happen in the space!
When forks in the road start to appear, you are being given a chance to change your existence
You’ll notice that as you open & evolve, what was your pre-determined path & habitual way of thinking is no longer your “only” option. With this new awareness, different options start to appear. You see the life you are currently living & also the untapped potential life brewing within you. Forks in the road start to appear.
It’s not that we will always have these BIG forks in the road that alter our life forever. But little forks in the every day. All these mini sliding door moments or decisions that can shift our reality, just from making a different choice. Whether you follow your gut or not. Whether you do the scary thing or not. Whether you choose an option from sameness, or from potential. Neither necessarily better or worse, but having the awareness that you have the choice.
We can say we want a different existence but stay in the same habitual behaviours as always. The Einstein quote, “you can’t solve a problem from the same mind that created it.” If you want change, it does mean you need to do something different. It means making decisions as your intuitive self, not from fear, lack or not enough.
When a new option or potential way of being arises - instead of instantly discounting & continuing in your usual habitual way - stop, sink into your body & ground in your intuition. Do you feel an expansion or a curiosity sparked? The answer will become clear which is the decision of your true self. The mind will do its usual thing and give you a plethora of reasons why not to. But start to experiment in this space of the unknown and intrigue.
We get little hints of what that potential life would be like:
// when we see other people doing something we deep down know is for us.
// when we trust our gut, do the the risky thing & are rewarded.
// when we let our mind imagine & feel the expansion of truth in our body.
// when someone we trust & respect reflects back our value & potential.
// when we start deconditioning & see our life transform.
// when we are present in the adventure of life - not waiting for your yearly holiday to explore.
// when we feel deeply satisfied & successful - based not on external validation, but internally fulfilled.
Little forks show up everywhere: you get to decide whether you continue traveling in the same energy or try that new way of being. Whether you act from the intuition or mind. Then you have muscle memory for the big life-altering forks.
Is there a possibility you can choose an alternate option than what you would habitually do from fear or sameness? That’s where that change you’re seeking lies.
To take the unchartered new forks in the road takes bravery. It means you’ll step through fear, societal norms & go against the grain. It requires intuitive decisions-making that we never were taught to trust. But it’s so so worth it!!
Life can be one big beautiful, abundant exploration, if you let it.
The coaching industry is changing
The wellness, coaching & self development industry is changing. Generic cookie-cutter approaches just don’t cut it. People are craving highly personalised, intuitive, practical guidance that WORKS for them.
Enter: human design
Deep down, you know that you are here to guide others, but you still feel like a bit of an imposter. You want to confidently step into your role, but you just need a framework to be able to intuitively flow through (enter Human Design - people will think you are in their brain / life with the amount of awareness & wisdom you will share to them).
I believe HUMAN DESIGN IS THE FUTURE.
Gone are the days that generic cookie-cutter coaching practices suffice. We are too switched-on for that now! People want highly personalised, intuitive and practical guidance that applies to them - and only them.
Things may not have started or taken off because your past study doesn't feel “enough” - no matter how many courses you have taken.
THIS Certification is the last course you will ever need.
(I have had many women come to me after not being satisfied with other courses, and finding exactly what they wanted/needed here).
The Advanced Empowered HD method is a 20-week Transformational Space where you will not only will you learn the extensive depth and transformational framework of Human Design, but you will learn how to empower your clients intuitively & practically. Stop trying to self study, and learn everything you will need to know to be an expert in Human Design - while being mentored along the way.
WARNING: Human design + aligned action typically leads to massive growth and abundance, without the hustle.
Tune into your intuitive authority to see if this program is right for you; if you feel a expansive excitement - I would love to have you!
Myth Busting Human Design Misconceptions
Next month, I am starting our next cohort in the Advanced Human Design Certification (last chance for early bird TOMORROW!). And it got me thinking about how important it is to receive your information from a reliable, empowering source (the internet can be a dark place!).
I am so passionate about sharing Human Design in an empowered, IN-DEPTH, highly personalised, intuitive way. If it feels constrictive & prohibitive - firstly, question where you are getting your information from. And secondly, leave it!!
Here are some big MYTHS I see people think and say that we need to BANISH:
MYTH: Manifestors are always extroverted
Many Manifestors don’t resonate with the “loud trailblazer” stereotype. Because they are here to initiate, it is often assumed they must be naturally extroverted & a ball-buster (based on patriarchal ways of leadership). But often Manifestors are introverted and prefer solitude or small, intimate gatherings over being in large groups or the center of attention. Being a Manifestor has nothing to do with their level of extroversion or introversion. Being authentically you is.
MYTH: Generators & MGs are the workhorses with endless energy
You are not a slave. I repeat. You are not designed to self sacrifice and just make someone else’s dreams or success come true. You have incredible access to life force energy but only when it is from a full gut yes. Otherwise, it will only drain & suppress you. You need rest and recovery time also - your body isn’t meant to go, go, go always.
Every human needs rest & open space - even lit up Generators or MGs. The most important thing is that you listen to your body and be mindful that the most satisfying rest comes when you’ve fully used up your energy doing things you love, whether it’s working, moving your body, or spending time with your favourite people.
MYTH: 4 profile lines like to network
Traditional networking is a 4 line worst nightmare. Being in a contrived place with a bunch of strangers that you need to work the room - no thank you! 4 lines are people persons but only to their people. They are the glue that holds their close community together - that may even just be a few people. Quality over quantity always. Never draining your energy on relationships that don’t serve or make you happy.
MYTH: 2 profile lines feel like a natural genius
Not usually the case on first-instance - but Human Design helps you see and value your inner genius. 2 lines are designed to lean into what feels most natural, because it is for a reason. Most of the time though (prior to finding HD), 2 profile lines have blindspots on what they are so naturally gifted at, or they don't think it's a big deal. It is often assumed that if it is “easy”, then it must be the same for everyone. NO! You are here to serve the world with exactly THAT. Let HD illuminate your strengths & PURPOSE.
MYTH: Projectors must passively wait for people to invite them into life
No!! This is the most disempowering narrative. You do not, I repeat, do NOT need an invite to start a business, do something new, follow your bliss in anyway. It is just a mechanism to ensure that you don’t waste your energy on sharing your gifts with people & places that don’t see or value you - because what’s the point! You will just feel bitter. You only need an invitation when it is giving guidance, going into business collaboration in their space & in relationship (so you know you’re valued as you). Otherwise, do your thing!
When it does come to receiving invites in work & life, it is not a passive process. People can’t invite you if they don’t know you exist or what you can offer them. Projectors attract invitations when they cultivate their gifts & mastery (mine is Human Design - best to choose a modality you are curious in), recognise their value & make themselves visible - letting the world know they exist & have powerful gifts to share. Never begging, just sharing value that invites people in to want more. Once that recognition is established - there will be no shortage of invites
MYTH: Reflectors can’t be around people because they are too sensitive.
The right people & places will not always take from you. You just need to be discerning of how much you can or want to take on. When you are connected & attuned to your body, and honour it’s responses - you will leave situations before it’s fully overwhelmed your system. You need to be your own advocate & are never powerless.
MYTH: MGs and Generators will always be sure when it’s 100% a gut yes
Most people have very overactive minds that talk us out of what our gut or intuition says. Your gut speaks & two seconds later your mind talks you out of it. Especially if you have an emotional authority, it can create indecision & doubt. So many wait for certainty but that doesn’t exist in intuitive living. Moving forward despite the doubt will help you create a stronger trusting relationship with your gut & create more of what you want.
ALWAYS use your strategy & authority when deciding what is true for you. Don’t just take anything for face value, it’s all meant to be your experimentation and embodiment of what feels best and right for you.
Love,
Hillary xx
The Ajna Center: Overcoming the Pressure of Mental Conditioning & the Overthinking Monkey Mind.
On the pod, I am diving into the Ajna (Mind) Awareness center within the Energy Center Series.
Out of ALL the energy centers, I see this as the one that most trips us up and holds us hostage in our conditioning and Not Self.
So many of us live purely from mental pressure and chatter (and I get it, intrusive thoughts and limiting beliefs used to live rent free in my mind 24/7). It wasn't until I understood how the mind works (it is wired for risk-adversity and sameness), did I then start to WITNESS and not believe it as fact. And instead, connected to my body and intuition as my decision maker.
Before asking “what am I supposed to do?" “what’s my full plan & direction” or “where am I meant to go?” First ask “how connected am I to myself?” Because your answers, purpose & direction will naturally flow on once you are.
Use your HD as the directory guide to connect with those parts of yourself. Then with this awareness, it is a daily practice to tune in, listen to your body’s feedback & honour where you feel called to go. Trusting your gut, or your intrigue, or excitement and moving in THAT direction. And trust me, it never fails - in hindsight it will all make sense.
Don’t try to reverse engineer it. That’s all from the pressure of the mind & leads us down the path of our conditioning. Connect inwards & then you’ll start connecting the dots outward. It is this daily devotional practice that is the foundation to create the life & change you desire.
I dive in how to decondition your mind and be in HEALTHY expression of your mind (no longer dictating your life and choices from the overthinking, monkey mind). In the podcast, I dive into:
// Exploring the Ajna Center
// Understanding Conditioning and Awareness to Rewire your Mind
// The Power of Intuition Over the Mind
// Navigating Mental Pressure and Intuition
// Embracing Uncertainty and Letting Go
// Overcoming Fear (how to feel the fear's discomfort and let it pass so it no longer holds you hostage).
// Embracing Uncomfortability for true Growth
// What it means if you have a Defined vs Undefined Ajna
YOU CAN LISTEN ON SPOTIFY HERE.
ENJOY! xx
If you are someone that is waiting for the “right sign” or the “right time”, this one's for you
For so long in my life, I felt like I was in a waiting room.
Sitting in indecision and waiting for the “sign”, “the right time”, to feel like I was making the “right decision” or “one day” when it was all going to happen for me.
Until I realised, that this was just a way that my mind was convincing me not to change and just stay the same, small, “protected” place. I realised that by not making a choice, I was making a choice to stay the same.
Don't get me wrong - I love a good sign or synchronicity, but I never ever ever wait for that. They happen daily for me and I just see it as a little wink from the Universe that I am on the right track ;)
Now, the only sign I am waiting for is the sign of my body - how it feels towards a decision, the excitement or curiosity towards something, if it feels drawn or connected to something. When I feel expansion, excitement or intrigue - I go for it! It is my clue of my next step.
I no longer wait for anything because I am the creator of my reality.
I remember the day I decided to be decisive and realised that if I wanted something to happen or for change to manifest in my life - I was the only one responsible. I couldn’t wait for the ‘perfect time’, for an invitation, for permission or someone else to map it out for me. That was the day I was finally free.
We can’t wait for others to change, or circumstances to be perfect or everything to come together. We have to go first - and the rest follows suit.
Please don't wait another moment to become the creator of your life.
If you want to feel supported, you need to first take the aligned action & the Universe then comes in to make it happen in your & the collective favour.
Sometimes you just need to find the courage to take the first scary step. Because only then can energy match and support you tenfold. You are signalling that you are ready for more. And trust me, you will always be rewarded!
It is up to you to begin to close the gap between what you want and what your life currently is.
Whatever your desire is (even if you don’t know the full vision), you need to go first. I’ve felt it first hand how the Universe conspires in your favour. You create the shift in your own narrative, and it ripples on from there.
Use Human Design awareness & tools to help you bring to life what you desire. It is the most effective and transformative tool sweeping the coaching industry because it is so individualised, tangible and crazily accurate.
Transformation happens when you meet your edge. Meet the fear, dare, feel it and do it anyway.
If you feel called to making a step towards your highest path and become a Certified Human Design Expert & Practitioner, join us for the Advanced HD Certification. Don't miss your chance to go first in an industry with so much demand, and so little supply.
Stop just giving your gifts away for free
I see you, you have a heart of gold and you care.
People come to you out of seemingly nowhere, because they sense that you can help them.
You love to support and guide people - you are people's first call when they need advice.
I know you desire to make a big impact and want to create a business that genuinely helps people.
The problem is, you are starting to get a little resentful and burnt out in the process of just giving it all away!
This is because it goes against the law of exchange - you need to receive for how much you give.
It's not about taking from people - but having the respect for their transformation that they take your words and time SERIOUSLY and actually implement in their lives. And you receive sustainably so you can show up time and time again.
Money is simply an exchange for solutions received. Where are you not allowing that exchange to happen because “you would do it for free”.
NEWSFLASH: This is why you should create a business for this.
I would do my current work for free, but it also isn't realistic because we have lives to pay for. Nor is it fair to either parties!
This is the reason why you need to create a sustainable business that supports you helping people and making an impact. YOU need to receive abundantly for the gifts you have - it's natural divine energy movement. The solutions you give need to also receive and be sustained.
Picture this: 6 weeks from now in full clarity, confidence and peace knowing that you are in your power and purpose - creating your dream business and attracting clients that are MADE for your offerings. You are able to go all in as you have deep understanding and embodiment of how to make it happen, YOUR way. You are full of fire & momentum with your action plan to make your desires & impact happen. You feel supported and resourced to LAUNCH into the world!
I GUARANTEE you will feel clear and confident in launching your soul offering, and have the practical foundations to attract your dream clients and consistent revenue.
This is why I have created the Advanced Human Design Certification and Create Space.
These are more than just a self development or business courses - you will TRANSFORM in the process. You will no longer doubt your value, your contribution or your money making abilities - you will be soaring into your biggest expansion!
Imagine 6 weeks from now and FINALLY having your business off the ground 🚀
Will you join us?
Energy Centers in Human Design
BY FAR, my favourite part of Human Design that gives us the most valuable, tangible information and awareness of our true self vs conditioned self energy is the energy centers (besides the energy type & authority of course).
But oddly enough, I have noticed that it is the least spoken about online. Expect if you have been in my spaces of course.
Any perpetual frustration, anger, bitterness, disappointment, burn out or feelings of being lost & confused is often because we are stuck in our conditioned beliefs & behaviours. But most don't even realise it! We might be blaming our boss or partner or family. When really, it's because we are trying to force something or living (forcing) in a way that isn't true or aligned for us.
But when we become aware of our conditioning, we can change it. If we aren't aware, we remain on autopilot and keep perpetuating what we say we don't want.
Enter: the knowledge of the energy centers. It breaks down our conditioning so it is tangible, bite size and approachable to start to our process of letting go and rewiring our brain & corresponding behaviour.
The students in my certification share that it is often the biggest part that moves the needle forward in their lives and in their client's lives & businesses.
So I wanted to create a free resource for you all within the ENERGY CENTER SERIES on the podcast. Each energy center has a theme, and I am going to deep dive into each.
SACRAL ENERGY CENTER: DECONDITIONING YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH WORK
Today, we dropped the sacral center podcast - all about life force creative energy, working, pleasure, desire. GREAT LISTEN! It is all about connecting & following your gut as a Generator & MG and how important that is in creating your impact on the world & drawing in your people. For the non-sacrals, it is about working differently, moving intuitively, preventing (and recovering from) burnout, importance of presence and how slowing down will actually create MORE success (mindblowing I know) and all the strategies I have created to get more out of your time. If you struggle to slow down and rest without guilt - this is a MUST LISTEN!
IDENTITY ENERGY CENTER: DECONDITIONING YOUR IDENTITY & DIRECTION
Last week, we kicked off with the Identity Center - the center that I have most needed to decondition and have created my life's work around that experience.
If you have ever asked yourself “Who am I?” “What is my purpose or direction”. Or resonate with moments in your life of feeling lost, inauthentic, stuck in places or jobs that don't feel good to you, pretending in a role or feeling like you have gone down someone else's direction. Ahem, me with law. Take a listen. You will learn all about the conditioning of the defined and undefined identity center and how to start creating YOUR aligned direction. I also share my take on purpose. You can listen here!
Remember your deconditioning is a process that is like an onion - peeling layer by layer as it presents. The Universe will always present you invitations in your life experience when it is time to unravel something specific. It's not something to rush or think you need to tackle in a day, or even a year.
If you would like to learn MORE about this incredible, indispensable guidance tool, check out the Advanced Human Design Certification.
Time & Pressure: Root Center
I want to talk about time and how we spend it. I know that for many, even that statement can create a ripple of anxiety. I see and hear so many people in my sessions share that they feel like they are running out of time. There is this pressure but it ultimately doesn't create positive feelings or action. It creates overwhelm, procrastination or defeat that their time has passed.
GOSH it couldn't be further from the truth!!
You know that thing that is “too big” or “would take too long” to do? It’s never too late to give it a go.
No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress, you are still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying.
You miss every opportunity or possibility that you never give a chance. That’s my definition of actually failing. There is no better time than now.
When we perceive that a HUGE mountain needs to be climbed to get somewhere, it can feel too daunting to start. But really, you don’t have to tackle the mountain top in one day or one season. It’s called life’s work for a reason - there is no final destination, just an extensive portfolio of how you decided to play with life.
You can start, make some headway, take a detour, get back on track, enjoy the view, celebrate your progress, rest, then onto the next peak.
Whether it is establishing a new home, starting a new career or job, launching a project, moving through a fear, changing your relationship to others or yourself. It doesn’t matter how long it may take, when you start taking steps to chip at it, it’ll happen. It has to! And it will happen quicker than you think - we over-inflate what we think it will take when momentum moves pretty quick once you actually start.
Slow progress is better than no action at all.
You have time to change your mind.
You have time to start again.
You have time to learn a new skill.
You have time to reinvent your career.
You have time to find out what you want.
You have time to create your vision.
You have time to live differently to how you do now.
You have time to quit your job & create your thing.
You have time to change your identity & path 10x over.
What you don’t have time for ~ worrying that you missed your chance. Fearing that you’ll run out of time.
Your life is happening while you wish you were further along.
It’s all happening even while you’re wishing it was something different.
Yes, life is short but it’s also very long. It’s never too late. You’ll waste precious time if you think that way.
But you DO need to start creating change if you want change. You can't create difference if you keep perpetuating sameness. You need to CREATE the SPACE for you to work out what your thing is. And most often than not, it means following and exploring what you are curious and excited in.
CREATE YOUR ALIGNED CAREER AND SHARE WHAT TRANSFORMED YOU: The Advanced Human Design Certification Now Enrolling.
ARE YOU CREATING YOUR LIFE OR BUSINESS FROM YOUR NOT SELF CONDITIONING OR YOUR TRUE SELF INTUITIVE UNIQUE EXPRESSION?
How to know?
One will lead to frustration, bitterness, anger, disappointment (Not Self repercussions). The other will lead to satisfaction, success, peace, flow & surprise (True Self expansion).
The most important & valuable part of the HD experiment is deconditioning. It removes all the behaviors & ways you are creating a life experience that you say you *don’t* want. So you are left with your true essence & intuitive strategy to create what you *do* want - with minimum effort & maximum satisfaction.
We can look to the energy centers to target the self-sabotaging conditioned behaviors that are stopping us from creating an easeful, successful business & life.
When you actively empty out what is holding you stuck & back - you MAGNETISE what is rightfully yours. We can look specifically to (just a few of 9 energy centers):
// Heart (Self worth): Instead of always pushing yourself to work harder, do more, give more value - you can sit back in confidence that your offerings are not only valuable, but transform people’s lives (and your self sacrifice & over-giving doesn’t make the offer better). No more lack of boundaries or being constantly available that leads to burn out or resentment.
// Ajna (Understanding): You no longer stuck in logic & trying to prove that your intuitive nudges are right before acting. You create a trust muscle & leverage your logic for strategy & your intuition for guidance.
// Solar Plexus (Emotions): You have greater awareness of what is for you to take on, and what is not. You have a greater capacity to hold clients because you are more resourced with boundaries & processes that protect YOU.
// Sacral & Root (life force drive & stress): You are no longer working so damn hard for little return. You move intentionally & smartly so that you move the needle forward in a meaningful way that attracts clients, rather than just push for more.
Sustainable success comes from your True Self, NOT your Not Self.
Don’t stay in the same self-sabotaging behaviors I see so many do:
Believing their mind as fact so never trusting where their intuitive voice is nudging them towards
Working incredibly hard for little return, and just keep pushing harder hoping for change
Listening to their conditioning and cookie-cutter advice, over finding their way to do work & life
Feeling stuck making someone else successful and feel anything but soulfully successful themselves
Recreating something that they have seen before because they feel disconnected from their own creative expression
Feeling unsupported and alone in their journey - not reaching out for support
Staying small and in the safe zone, but feeling burnt out and frustrated
Not having the full clarity so staying still in analysis paralysis
Overgiving and overdelivering without strategy or understanding how to best show up
ARE YOU OPERATING FROM THE VOICE OF YOUR CONDITIONING NOT SELF OR TRUE SELF?
ROOT CENTER
Instead of asking, “Have I ticked everything off my to- do list today?”
Ask: “Have I connected with myself & my surroundings mindfully today and moved the needle forward on what matters most?” ˆKnowing I can’t do everything & shouldn’t.
SACRAL
Instead of asking, “Have I been productive enough to earn a rest?”
Ask: “Have I rested enough to be energised to show up meaningfully & purposefully?”
AJNA
Instead of asking, “How can I find all the answers & be 100% certain this will all work out?”
Ask: “How can I embrace inevitable uncertainty & still move forward intuitively?” Because that’s where the goodness & expansion I seek lies.
HEART
Instead of asking, “What more can I do to prove that my work is worthy & value to people?”
Ask: “How can I see the value I give and believe when people tell me that I have helped them? I am not here to save anyone to be valuable, nor should I.
SOLAR PLEXUS
Instead of asking, “How can I help, please & take the pain of everyone that comes to me?”
Ask: “Am I resourced with clear boundaries of how I can help this person?” Because only then can I show up sustainably for them.
SPLEEN
Instead of asking, “Why am I always feeling unwell - what products or supplements do I need to buy?”
Ask: “Am I holding onto something that needs to be released? How can I create deeper connection, safety & ease with my body?”
HEAD
Instead of asking, “What do I want to create?”
Ask: “What inspiring spaces can I put myself in that makes it inevitable to create?”
THROAT
Instead of asking, “What is the perfect statement to say right now for people to think I am smart & know what I am talking about?”
Ask: “Can I release the pressure & trust that the perfect words for that person come when they are meant to be spoken?" I just need to be present & tapped in.
IDENTITY
Instead of asking, “Who am I & what is my one-line lifetime purpose mission statement?”
Ask: “I am an expansive being who is in her purpose when creating my own direction in the present - so how does my energy want to be used today? Because that’s how my purpose unfolds.
We are launching sustainable businesses that factor in YOU in CREATE SPACE. Not a generic business course that leaves you with more questions than answers. You will be supported in creating a business that leverages your strengths, gifts & energetic way to MAKE it HAPPEN - with ease & spaciousness.
I will be there with you EVERY step of the way - guiding, holding you accountable, not just being your cheerleader but someone who will call it how I see it. All with love and the best intentions to help you start making moves and creating your desires. I don't want another minute go past of you working so damn hard for little fulfillment or revenue - you have another way!
What energy are you inviting into your life?
We get to choose the energy we bring into our lives. How we do one thing is often how we do everything. We see the world through our own eyes, stories, perceptions, preferences, biases - it’s not reality. But the beauty is, we can change the way we operate in the world.
We set the intention and our job is to be ready, open & aware as we move through the world and create from that place. Where you put your intention, energy goes and expands. It’s never other people or circumstances stopping us or making us feel a certain way, it’s all our mind. And it’s not as smart as you think, all that worrying & stress about things that will never happen. There are no limits in this world, except in your mind.
This is where YOU get to set the tone of how you would like to show up in work and life.
In order to invite in new energy, we need to release all that isn’t serving us.
Don’t stay in the same self-sabotaging behaviors I see so many do:
Believing their mind as fact so never trusting where their intuitive voice is nudging them towards
Working incredibly hard for little return, and just keep pushing harder hoping for change
Listening to their conditioning and cookie-cutter advice, over finding their way to do work & life
Feeling stuck making someone else successful and feel anything but soulfully successful themselves
Recreating something that they have seen before because they feel disconnected from their own creative expression
Feeling unsupported and alone in their journey - not reaching out for support
Staying small and in the safe zone, but feeling burnt out and frustrated
Not having the full clarity so staying still in analysis paralysis
Overgiving and overdelivering without strategy or understanding how to best show up
^ If you give your energy to these, it’ll only create frustration & resentment in your life.
This is where you get to draw the line in the sand of what you are inviting into your life.
If I think about all the good that has happened in my life, many (if not most) came when my “plans” fell apart. What I’ve learnt is to not resist or force, but get curious and surrender. Even if you don’t feel it while it’s happening, there’s always something on the other side.
You get to choose what energy you invite in - it just takes you being so firm in what it is. And when you are tested (which you will be), you always come back to your intention - it’s your guiding force, not the outside world.
Peace is not about dissolving issues or pain. Inner peace is always there even when difficulties arise. It’s returning back to yourself time & time again, as life takes us through our lessons.
I am incredibly excited to start turning your ideas and visions into reality in Create Space. You will receive the support & guidance of how to create consistent return on your gifts & offerings. It’ll be focused on business creation - all supported on the personalized foundation of your Human Design so you can be sure you are setting it up right from the beginning.
Signature Self: How to know if you are on the ‘right’ track
I often hear, how do I know if it is the right decision for me?
Or how do I know if I am on the right track?
Short answer: Your body will tell you.
Long answer: Your intuition is always guiding you moment to moment and what is right for you will always feel resonant and expansive in your body in the present. You will feel a return on your energy investment - maybe not externally instantly but you will feel an internal flow of energy moving through your body in a satisfying, meaningful way.
Believe it or not, the answers never come from a heady, overthinking, logical place. It isn't if you have the bulletproof plan or that it looks good on paper - it is how it FEELS in your body in the present moment. Because NOW is all we have.
When does the future happen? It happens in the present.
When did the past happen? It happened in the present.
We only have the feeling and somatic sensations of the now to guide us. And these add up moment to moment to create your path and life as a whole. Our body is always giving us feedback, we just need to know how to listen and decipher what it is saying. Instead of looking for external validation that we are doing well.
So this is why we have our “Signature Self” in Human Design to give us understanding of when we are on track. (Or how I like to call the Soul Self - check out last week's podcast all about connecting with the Soul - it's a goodie!!). It is the bio-feedback from your body when you are living true to your strategy and authority (aka your intuition and sustainable energy flow). It's how you ACTUALLY answer the question of “am I on the right track?”
In reverse, our “Not Self” of frustration, anger, bitterness or disappointment is biofeedback from our body that we need to come back into connection with ourselves, our strategy and our intuitive authority. This is not about shaming or judging ourselves, but getting curious. It might just need to be a small tweak where you aren't giving yourself some time alone, or you are continuously overdoing it.
Don't get me wrong, there will always be challenges in our lives - this is how we grow and evolve. But perpetually being in your Not Self day in and day out is not a life to live. It should feel satisfying or successful (depending on your signature) to move through the challenge and hardship once you do.
Here are some ways to know if you are connected with your Signature:
GENERATOR: Life in my signature of Satisfaction
I no longer ask what the world needs, instead I ask what makes me come alive & do that - because that's when I am most of service. What the world needs is more people who have come alive. I realise it's not so much what I say or do, but the energy & feeling I invoke in others. I follow what feels right in my body, rather than what makes sense in my mind. When I feel frustrated, I see it as a sign that I need to return to my gut and get curious. I feel deeply satisfied when I sink my teeth in & accomplish what is on my heart. Life has become an exercise of how much fun can I have. When I lift myself up, I lift everyone around me and the impossible becomes inevitable.
MANIFESTING GENERATOR: Life in my signature of Satisfaction
I have thrown out the rule book. I no longer subscribe to how life "should" look so it''s turning out better than expected. I move at my own pace, even if it is faster than others. When I do what expands me, the world around me expands also. My joy gives others joy. When something starts to bog me down, I release it. Never letting my energy stagnate by forcing something that is no longer for me. My 'NO' is just as powerful as my 'YES!' When I trust my gut instinct, I am steered to exactly where I am meant to be. I don't question or judge when I feel called to something new or to change directions, I know that I am being guided to something bigger & better. When I embrace my fast-moving ever-evolving process, I am alive in my true state of creative freedom and expression. I am proof that work & play can be intertwined.
MANIFESTOR: Life in my signature of Peace
I have full creative freedom over how my life looks & feels. I birth whatever is bursting through me at any given moment. I follow my urges without questioning how it will be received. My chosen people accept me as I am and celebrate all that I am creating. I no longer try to be anything other than who I am. When moments of doubt or anger present, I come back to my truth, release what needs to be let go of and devote back to my vision. I move at my own rhythm, never forcing my creativity when the inspiration or energy isn't there. I take advantage of the spurts of energy & rest when they are not. Rest is a part of my creative process. I understand that my purpose is revealed every time I open my mouth & speak from the heart.
PROJECTOR: Life in my signature of Success
I have as much space in my day for stillness as I do stimulation. I have found my sweet spot: doing what i love, what I am naturally good at and what the world needs. The small moments of presence & recognition feel just as good as the bigger ones. I no longer constantly push for more, and instead see the value I already bring. I share freely, feel seen & recognised for my expertise, with nothing to prove. I have autonomy over my days & accept only aligned invitations. I am always reaching greater depth & layers in my mastery. While, resting guilt-free. I have created my soul family who see, get me, better me & are bettered by me. My successful life is one where I have released the pressure to be anything other than who I am.
REFLECTOR: Life in my signature of Surprise
I live authentically as myself moment-to-moment. I accept myself today, without needing to define myself tomorrow. I don't live in a future I have no business in trying to control. Instead I create space to be surprised, inspired and in awe of how miraculous life can be. Whenever I feel off or disappointed, I reflect back on how I may have lost my way down another person's path. I have learnt to no longer mould to other people's expectations & instead withdraw from any environments that no longer feel healthy to me. I feel connected with my home & people. They see the wisdom I hold deep within my bones. Life feels like an adventure with endless possibilities & paths to explore. I take my time because there is no rush.
HAVE YOU LISTENED TO LAST WEEK'S PODCAST ON CONNECTING WITH YOUR SOUL VOICE?
THIS is your Signature Self, or your Soul Self.
Your body is always communicating to you on the health of your Soul.
We just need to listen and give ourselves the same love and care.
Feeling in limbo in the in-between
So many of us experience moments in life where we feel neither quite here nor there — having neither departed nor arrived. Being in limbo, the space in-between or in ‘nothingness’ is a right of passage when moving into your aligned life. With greater awareness and no longer on auto-pilot, you might begin shifting old patterns and letting go of what no longer fits but not yet sure what does.
There is deep wisdom & potential in allowing space for the ‘in between’ — for sitting with what is, what is no longer and what could be.
If you are feeling this, I want to remind you that you are exactly where you are meant to be. This space is such an important part of becoming more You. I know cliche, but it's an important reminder when we get so much pressure to rush, figure it all out and “know everything” beforehand.
An element of unknown is a criteria of intuitive living. But in our world of busyness, productivity and instant gratification tells us to forge full-steam ahead. In other words: Get through it as fast as possible. A pressure to have life all figured out in a perfect box with bow.
It can be a tender place in letting go & moving forward. But these life junctures are a gift. It is fertile ground where thoughts, ideas and inspirations are born. The change you were asking for.
You might be asking yourself, Who even am I? What am I doing? Where am I going? What is my place in the world? Just remember this isn’t something to figure out from the mind, but allow your body to begin to show you, in time, in its own way. Lean into trusting your authority today, without it needing to prove for tomorrow. We are all just constantly evolving more and more into our deepest, truest selves.
Don’t fall pressure to filling the empty space by settling or reverting back. This time will set the tone of the storyline that will play out for the rest.
Remember why you are doing this. Your future self will be grateful for your bravery. Get to know your new version of self as they present, like a third person. What does your future self like, want, desire today? Get to know the real, can feel “new” You.
Take this time to be in receiver discovery mode. To feel what is left unfelt in your body. To hibernate & come back to yourself. To anchor in your intuition in the present. Knowing very well that there is light at the end of the limbo tunnel. Your time will come again, and it is already here right now.
We all know that hindsight is 20/20, but could we give ourselves permission to simply sit in unknowingness until we arrive there?
It’s okay not to know what’s next.
It’s okay to feel the uncertainty & fear.
It’s okay to trust that all is well & this is a necessary part of your expansion.
You are supported, loved and will land on two grounded feet again. There will be times that we must walk through the space of limbo to get there. For now, love yourself through your ‘in betweens’ with the knowingness that it’s all okay. It’s all a part of this journey through the human experience, and you will be so grateful you held yourself through it.
Suggestions during this time:
Find safety in the unknown: ground into your intuition, remind yourself how loved you are in your relationships, that you have a roof over your head, people that want to support you, capabilities that will always be fruitful - you always have abilities to fall back on
Be in curious discovery mode: Be present and follow the Universe’s stimulus offering clues via your body’s response
Dare to choose different, decondition your thoughts and give yourself permission to shift your story
Remember you asked for this change, come back to gratitude of how far you’ve come and that you are in a space to create change
Be a passenger to your intuitive body, it is driving the ship: take the breadcrumbs as they appear without pressure of understanding “why” in the grand scheme of things
Get out of your mind, and into your body DAILY: whatever practices work for you
Have anchor points and structure in the unknown - friend, work out class, meditation, breathwork, practices that support you
Look to your human design for reconfirmation and clues - it can show you where to focus your energy and where your strengths are (should you forget)
Make a recording or journal entry to remind you why you are doing this (for any moments of doubt)
Trust and be kind to yourself, no matter what!
Gate 63 of Doubt in Human Design
The sun is currently in Gate 63 of “Doubt” which brings a sense of skepticism and potential distrust in yourself and the world around you. Many feel like they are in a cloud - feeling pressure to gain clarity, doubting themselves, second guessing decisions and overall feeling ungrounded and uncentered. A common theme of asking “what is this even all for?” “do I have what it takes?” “is this even worth it?”. ESPECIALLY if things aren’t panning out as quickly as you had hoped.
You may just be finding yourself trying to make sense of things from the past, or obsessing on “how” things are going to happen in the future. It is (sadly) a common occurrence during transitions to doubt if it is not all happening right away. Thinking that it means you're meant to be doing this. This was a belief I once had but let me tell you, it's not how the world works. Especially if you expect it to just fall in your lap. Life requires you to take action towards your vision and be in the energy of what you wish to create. It's not about forcing, but taking aligned inspired action. While being patient in becoming a person you haven't been before.
Self doubts are just fears to protect you from loss, failure, rejection. Yet the irony is that, doubt often makes you lose out on what you may have gained by fearing the attempt. Your doubts are not the truth. Rather they are fear-fuelled stories you create about who you are, what you’re worth and what you’re capable of achieving. Most often than not, your doubts are the opposite of truth.
This is the time to really anchor into your practices that help you feel connected to yourself and stay in your trust. Self trust and confidence is not about being perfect or doing all the right things. It is trying something outside of your comfort zone, and knowing that you will still have your own back when you are not perfect. Let yourself be new, be a beginner, start something for the first time.
The worst thing is not taking any aligned action due to doubt of your own capabilities. If right now you are extra overthinking, self doubt or asking “what the hell am I even doing?”. Especially if you're in periods of change & transition. Be kind to yourself, you're human in these times. This does not mean your project, work or people are wrong for you. Let this moment of questioning pass and stay rooted in your knowing & vision. Don't burn it all down. Your inner intuition is your guide, not your overthinking monkey mind.
Make Your Mission Bigger Than Your Fear.
Get clear on your why to find the courage needed to step through doubts and risk failing.
Mind vs Intuition: Come back to your Strategy & Authority. If you have an intuitive nudge calling you somewhere, it's because there is something there for you. Don't let the doubt talk you out of it - you are more than capable!
Nourish and nurture yourself now. Anchor into your intuition. This will pass, you've got this. This is the time you can experiment with your creativity and inspiration - open your mind and explore your curiosities. Start to make aligned inspired action forward and show your body that you can step into the unknown. This is where your confidence is built - disproving your mind’s stories by doing the scary thing and SURVIVING (or better yet, thriving).
What would the empowered, self-believing version of yourself move through the world? Do exactly that, because that's your true essence, not the fear blocking it. Thank your doubts for trying to protect you, then tell them you’re not here to live a safe life, you’re here to live the biggest life you are capable of living. Then put your hand on your heart, picture your success, take a big long breath and then JUST DO IT! As research has found and experience has taught me, every time you take action in the presence of your doubts you dilute their power and amplify your own.
How to make decisions from your intuition and not your mind
Not think about a decision or an emotion or a fear, but FEEL in your body.
This is a question we should ask ourselves in ANY decision.
It is the most life-changing way to move through the world.
How does your relationships feel in your body? How does your daily routine feel in your body? How does showing up to your work feel in your body? How does that new possibility feel in your body?
Sadly, many rarely ask themselves that. Or validate and listen to what it is saying.
Maybe just maybe, if you leave a friend meeting & feel drained, or you show up to work with a pit in your stomach - that it might not be a place to invest your energy.
And maybe just maybe if you feel excited, interested, curious or energised - then you should be going more of exactly that!
Instead of just answering about a decision or speaking about a situation/dynamic on a cognitive level straight from the mind. Stop, pause, close your eyes (to detach from the world) and tune into your intuition. Envision the possible decision (as though anything is possible), do you feel a constriction in your body? Anxiety? Excitement? Curiosity? Expansion? Peace? Calm?
THIS IS YOUR INTUITION, and it's trying to show you the REAL answer of your next step.
Too often we feel like the answers are outside of us - in another person, in a sign or even based on “logical” norms.
This is why I believe so many people feel lost and disconnected from themselves, because they don’t realize that they have a navigation compass within.
The problem is, we think that the clarity comes when a lightening bolt strikes us with certainty of what to do. This very rarely, if ever, happens. So we just stay waiting and put things off another month, year or decade.
Your intuition is simply a often subtle internal response and feedback. It is bio-feedback of what to add in more of, and what to begin to let go of.
Scanning our body for tightness, emotion, specific sensations whenever you envision or have a decision to make, can help provide insight into your next steps moving forward.
Excitement, enthusiasm, joy, curiosity, expansion, potential = more of this, move towards this. Dread, drained, constriction, pit in your stomach, boredom, feeling trapped = less of this, start to begin to let these things go.
No one outside you is the keeper of all the right answers, not even your therapist or coach. No one knows what is best for you, except you. All these people’s role is to help you make decisions based on your true self, and much of that can be tapped into through noticing how our body responds.
This is how I guide others and also teach in my Certification. Your ideas based on your intuition are always the best, and I love that the clients I have in m space are empowered in that way - no one is looking to be saved.
Often if one has experienced anxiety or illness, it can be hard to trust your body. It can feel like you vs your body. But it is not against you, it is guiding you and wants to heal. There can be a fear of tuning in and feeling emotions because it can be overwhelming.
But by bringing awareness to how our body responds in our present moment we are breaking the cycle of being controlled by external feedback and disconnection to our intuition. You are connecting deeper to yourself.
We need to ask ourselves this question, “how does it feel in my body?” more. For example, if you force something in your routine you don't want to do, or leave that friend feeling shitty, or show up to work full of dread - your body is telling you, please less of this or change this.
Or when you have big curiosity and excitement when you share what you newly learnt to your partner.
NONE of this is by accident. THIS IS YOUR INTUITION. It's not so big and tricky to connect to.
Build a relationship with your body and your life will change forever.
Take a moment now, close your eyes, and feel into a decision you have been weighing up - HOW DOES IT FEEL IN YOUR BODY? Rinse and repeat for the rest of your life :)
Gate 19 in Human Design
Just because your words, presence and energy heals, doesn’t necessarily mean that everyone should have access to it.
Hi loves
I recently read the above sentiment and it felt very resonate with this week's energy transit with the Sun moving through Gate 19. As usual, the transits invite us to look within and how this archetypal energy is present within us. This gate brings an energy and highly intuitive, sensitive, empathetically attuned knowing to others. So this one is for my fellow intuitive feelers.
If you are feeling called to read on, I presume that you are someone who is finely attuned to others - their emotions, needs and energy shifts. If someone walks into a room, you can feel almost instantly if something is off. They don’t even have to say anything, and you can feel it. This energetic sensitivity is your superpower, when it is boundaried and balanced.
It feels meaningful for you to help, support and hold space for another’s needs - and you are extremely good at it. While this is a beautiful part of you, it is important to remember that just because you can be there for someone, solve a problem or support them in their process, it doesn’t mean you should always overextend and do all those things. You are not responsible, I repeat, not responsible for other people’s peace and happiness. Especially if you are self-sacrificing yourself in the process. Please please don't put your own needs at the bottom of your priorities.
You only can take on so much. Just because you care, it doesn't mean you should carry all the weight.
What are your core authentic needs? Are they being met?
During this time, take note of any emotional and intuitive senses you are experiencing, especially clarity on your own needs. For many women, we can prioritise other people’s needs and forget to even turn inward and ask what our needs are. And then wonder why we feel unfulfilled in our lives.. You are deserving of your needs to be met. I remember I used to be so shameful of having needs for fear that I would be perceived as “needy”. It meant that I never felt satisfied in my relationships and always felt taken for granted and unappreciated. In reality, I never voiced or acknowledged that I even had needs.
This can be a beautiful time to reflect what your soul needs and desires are in relationships, work and life. Especially in our relationship with ourselves, because this is the foundation of everything. To help, you can ask yourself the below questions:
How do I feel about how I’m currently taking care of myself?
Where do I feel fulfilled most? (How can you maximise and prioritise these more).
Where do I feel empty or burnt out? (How can you minimise these, set healthy boundaries or have honest communication with yourself around why you continue to do these things).
Where would I like to invest my time and energy in more?
What are the top three activities that help me feel grounded and regulated? (How can you incorporate these more).
What are the top three activities that bring me joy and make me feel alive? (Incorporate these into your weekend, week or month).
What activities, beliefs and behaviors am I saying yes to that I’d actually like to let go? (Contributing to what you say you don't want).
What activities, beliefs and behaviors am I saying no to that I’d actually like to adopt?
What boundaries do I need to set to protect my time and myself?
At the end of each day what do I wish I had done? (Less thinking of conditioned efficiency and productivity, and more about what makes you feel alive, nourished and fulfilled).
When it comes to the energy of this week, it is asking us to reflect on where we are energetically being leaky and not honouring our own emotional wellbeing. You may need to establish boundaries most importantly with yourself - what you are willing and not willing to take on. We don’t want to get to the place of creating co-dependent, reliant relationships or feeling emotionally burnt out - it will just lead you on a fastback to your Not Self of frustration, bitterness, resentment or anger. It can also blur the lines of your own personal identity and mean that you are unsure of what is yours and what is theirs.
Remember that you don't need to self sacrifice for the sake of your work or relationships. Be your own support person my love.
Love, Hillary xx