Fear of being seen and sharing online

This is my PSA that you do not have to bare it all online to be successful in this industry.

I hear so often, “I really want to get into this work but I am just not the person who wants to speak face to camera or share all my vulnerable life moments”.

And you know what my answer is? (Unlike other coaches that may say you have to!)

“Please don't then!!”

Where did we go so far that we feel like its necessary to bare your heart and soul to absolute strangers on the internet? That in order to “help” people, you have to be so vulnerable and share your most deepest, hardest, challenging and raw moments of your life (cue crying video). Where did this become a prerequisite to being a trustworthy, “authentic person” and a “limiting belief” if you don't do it. 

Don't get me wrong, I am all about transparency, authenticity and vulnerability. But you don't owe anyone your full vulnerability and rawest moments.

It makes me sad to think that many incredible women aren't stepping into their purpose for fear that they need to do that. 

There is a difference between fear of being seen and wanting to keep your heart protected.  There is a difference between sharing something because “it makes you more relatable” vs genuinely wanting to share what you have moved through (because that will never feel forced). If there comes a moment that you WANT to share that - amazing! Go for it!!

But at the end of the day, protect your heart. You don't have to say all the details but share the learnings, realisations, perspectives, process, your wisdom - that you have cultivated from your life experience. People feel the WEIGHT in your words rather than needing to tell them all that you went through to receive that now knowing. This should be more of a priority.

I rarelyyy ever post talking to camera - not because I am afraid of it but because it hasn't really felt natural, so I don't force it. I have always felt like my podcast was more my space. If I do feel called to grab my camera and speak, then I will. But I don't see it as a prerequisite for success & community creation. 

Don't let this be a reason to stop you from stepping into this coaching space. You set the expectation of what you are available for! 

You can share, be seen, serve in a way that feels true for you!

You never ever ever have to self sacrifice for the sake of success. 

Don't let it be the reason you don't start the business or share your wisdom.

So now that's out of the way - do you have a message, deep down desire & mission to help people -  there is an element of putting yourself out there and actually sharing that. So if you are afraid of being seen, here are some of my tips:

// Look at where you are judging others or have witnessed judgement of others - when we judge others, it is a reflection of where we judge ourselves and have a shadow of not allowing ourselves to fully express. We never ever want to be on the other end of the judgement that we or others have given. My past self would have 1000% judged me now, because she didn't let herself be authentic or take up space. Until I went inward, healed those shadow aspects, celebrated other people doing the thing I previously judged - did I no longer fear it. I realised that judgement is more about that person, than about me (because I had been the judger before). Talk about FREEING being someone with absolutely no judgement towards others.

// Connect with the inner child of you that is afraid of being seen, misunderstood, rejected and abandoned. I love to use the practice of IFS (that I will be teaching you inside the Certification) to access, heal, and send love to that part of yourself. This is POWERFUL because it gets to the core, root subconscious belief rather than bandaid approach. Your inner child needs to feel safe & protected - how are you helping them feel that?

// Regulate your nervous system before, after and during “being seen”. If you are putting yourself out there, your nervous system and body can go into fight or flight. It can feel like it's safety and survival is threatened because you are going against “the pack” (we need community to survive). So please breathe through it, EFT tapping, saying the sound “voooom” as you tap and regulate your body. Tell yourself “I am safe, I am safe”. Then get support either from nature or a loved on - this gives the feeling of unconditional love & acceptance. Do not, I repeat, do not check your phone, the likes, the reception - it will make it only worse. Celebrate yourself for doing the scary thing, regardless of the reception!

Take it slow, this is big work. Especially if you have a 5 profile line. When you allow yourself to naturally and authentically be seen for your sharings & knowings - you will feel truly FREE and no longer held back. But again, you do not need to feel like you have to be an open book that bares it all! You just do you! 

If you want to dive in deeper to moving through the fear of being seen, I recorded a podcast earlier this year below!

Sending so much love!! Honestly so proud of you, I know this work is MASSIVE. Fear of being seen used to be debilitating for me (to the extent that I broke up with my partner, moved overseas and blocked everyone from my home city on instagram so that they couldn't see this new identity and life I was creating). Please don't go to my extremes haha! 

If I can do it, so can you!

Banishing Feast And Famine Cycles in Business

Why setting yourself Up to receive consistently is so important in business 

One of the biggest challenges many business owners face is the cycle of feast and famine. One month, you're attracting so much work & clients, and the next, you're scrambling to find your next opportunity. But it doesn’t have to be this way. With the right strategies, aligned with your Human Design — you can create consistency in your business so you can enjoy steady returns and a predictable client flow.

Here’s my number one tip for each energy type (because yes, my advice will always depend on your Human Design. I don't believe in one-size-fits-all cookie-cutter approaches):

PROJECTORS:

1. Establish Yourself in the Market as an Expert in Your Field: When you first begin your business, you are working to create reputation in your industry as a guide and leader in your expertise (because that is your gift and what you are here for). From there, you build trust in your expertise, an engaged community and are positioned as a go-to authority. The invites flow and you will attract consistent and ideal clients. To do this, you need to be so clear and dialed in to what you offer, the knowledge & expertise you have and how you can help people transform. Once that reputation has been created, it does all the work for you – you don't have to show up constantly on instagram, you don't have to undercharge or overgive to clients – you are in demand and will feel deeply seen, recognised and successful. 

How to do it: Start sharing your unique insights in your own words in blogs, podcasts, videos, social media (we prefer long form content) where you showcase your knowledge. Give client testimonials and case studies to highlight your credibility of delivering high-quality results and value. You have to allow yourself to be seen and take up space, don't let imposter syndrome stop you from sharing your gifts and perspectives. I teach you how to create your reputation and receive recognition in your chosen field during Create Space.

GENERATORS:

1. Simplify your offerings, nail the energy behind your messaging and create recurring revenue streams:  Generators thrive when they focus on mastering one or a few areas, rather than scattering energy across too many directions. Your energy is what sells and draws your aligned clientele so you need to LOVE your offering and feel excited to show up for it. When people feel that energy behind your work, they can't help but be attracted to what you are offering. Strategize how you can gain more from your output – so offer packages and products that allow you to work with clients for a longer period of time. Not only does this mean more revenue for you, but you can help them achieve even better results. Offering one-off 1:1 is great to gain experience, but it is making receiving consistently a lot more harder than they need to be. 

How to do it: Simplify your business offerings. More is not better. Start with one clear, impactful offering that serves a very specific problem your niche is experiencing. Once that’s established, you can continue to develop and expand your offering. Remember it needs to be structured to create consistent revenue so you work smarter, not harder. Your energy does the talking! 

MANIFESTING GENERATORS:

1. Be Visible and Share Your Energy: MGs are SO magnetic when they are authentically excited about what they do – it is infectious and contagious when we see you in your flow and passion. So show us the fun wild ride of your life and business. People are drawn to your vibrant energy. unique mix of skills and passions - be more YOU. Clients are less interested in a polished, “perfect” presentation and more drawn to your genuine enthusiasm and how you show up in the world. Stop trying to stay small, “cool” or palatable. Stop making sure everything is perfect and “done” – it honestly suppresses your energy and it falls lackluster. Let us see your humanness, speak how you speak, don't be in your head so much, let your energy FLOW. You will attract the people that are made for your energy. Then create systems and structures that help support your creative flow. 

How to do it: Take your audience on a journey. Share the moments of inspiration, creation, and even challenges in your work. This transparency builds trust and connection. Speak to your audience’s desires and needs (don't try to talk to everyone). Frame your posts, videos, or blogs around what your ideal clients want and need. Use your voice to offer value—whether it’s inspiration, education, or transformation. Show up regularly, even if it’s in small doses. Your visibility keeps you top of mind for potential clients.

MANIFESTORS:

1. Create high impact, high value offers: Manifestors are not designed to grind out work continuously; their energy operates in powerful bursts, and rest is essential for maintaining alignment. High-impact, high-value offers let you focus your energy where it’s most effective, allowing you to work less while creating greater value and impact. These offers also position you as a leader and allow clients to see the significant transformation you provide. Build anticipation around your work. Manifestors have a natural ability to create excitement and momentum. Building anticipation taps into this strength, drawing attention to your work and encouraging clients to act. Manifestors shine when they generate curiosity and enthusiasm for what’s coming next.

How to do it: Focus on the biggest transformation or results you can deliver. Manifestors excel at initiating change, so design offers that create significant shifts for your clients. Create a high-value offering that is different to what others are doing and set your pricing according to the value and transformation you’re delivering. Tease your offerings, create energy and excitement around them – remember you are here to take up space and not shy away from the impact of your work. Don't be afraid to be proud of your offering and back it!

REFLECTORS:

1. Embrace Your Role as a Mirror and Leverage your Unique Perspectives: Reflectors are here to reflect the state of their environment and guide others toward alignment. Your ability to see what others often miss is your greatest asset. Position your services as a way for clients to gain clarity, alignment, or insight. Highlight your ability to help others reflect and refine their goals. You don't need a massive community to have success. Focus on quality over quantity. Reflectors thrive on meaningful connections rather than overwhelm of too many different people's energy. Working with clients who value your insights ensures consistent, fulfilling revenue. Then, master the art of client retention: Happy clients are not only repeat clients but also your biggest advocates.

How to do this: Focus your messaging on your ability to help clients gain clarity, identify blind spots, and align with their highest potential. Offer services like audits, strategy sessions, or reflective consultations. Nurture deep relationships with a smaller client base. Focus on long-term partnerships where your reflective insights can create lasting transformation. Implement strong follow-up systems and offer incentives for long-term commitments. Always ask for feedback and look for ways to enhance their experience.

Are you ready to create a business that supports consistent growth? Let’s break the cycle of feast and famine and set you up for success. Create Space, is designed to help you clarify your offerings, align with your strengths, and generate systems for sustainable success.

Join now!

Let’s build a business you can count on — every single month.

Waiting for the “right time”

YOU HAVE TO GO FIRST.

if you are someone that is waiting for the “right sign” or the “right time”, this one's for you

For so long in my life, I felt like I was in a waiting room. 

Sitting in indecision and waiting for the “sign”, “the right time”, to feel like I was making the “right decision” or “one day” when it was all going to happen for me. 

Until I realised, that this was just a way that my mind was convincing me not to change and just stay the same, small, “protected” place. I realised that by not making a choice, I was making a choice to stay the same.

Don't get me wrong - I love a good sign or synchronicity, but I never ever ever wait for that. They happen daily for me and I just see it as a little wink from the Universe that I am on the right track ;)

Now, the only sign I am waiting for is the sign of my body - how it feels towards a decision, the excitement or curiosity towards something, if it feels drawn or connected to something. When I feel expansion, excitement or intrigue - I go for it! It is my clue of my next step.

I no longer wait for anything because I am the creator of my reality.

I remember the day I decided to be decisive and realised that if I wanted something to happen or for change to manifest in my life - I was the only one responsible. I couldn’t wait for the ‘perfect time’, for an invitation, for permission or someone else to map it out for me. That was the day I was finally free.

We can’t wait for others to change, or circumstances to be perfect or everything to come together. We have to go first - and the rest follows suit.

Please don't wait another moment to become the creator of your life. 

If you want to feel supported, you need to first take the aligned action & the Universe then comes in to make it happen in your & the collective favour.

Sometimes you just need to find the courage to take the first scary step. Because only then can energy match and support you tenfold. You are signalling that you are ready for more. And trust me, you will always be rewarded!

It is up to you to begin to close the gap between what you want and what your life currently is.

Whatever your desire is (even if you don’t know the full vision), you need to go first. I’ve felt it first hand how the Universe conspires in your favour. You create the shift in your own narrative, and it ripples on from there.

Use Human Design awareness & tools to help you bring to life what you desire. It is the most effective and transformative tool sweeping the coaching industry because it is so individualised, tangible and crazily accurate. 

Transformation happens when you meet your edge. Meet the fear, dare, feel it and do it anyway.

If you feel called to making a step towards your highest path and become a Certified Human Design Expert & Practitioner, join us for the Advanced HD Certification. Don't miss your chance to go first in an industry with so much demand, and so little supply. Spaces are limited for intimacy reasons.

Love, Hillary xx

Avoid these common pitfalls when launching a business offering

Launching your offering can feel incredibly vulnerable and overwhelming, but it really doesn't have to be. Through my experience and work with clients, I've noticed a few common mistakes that mean your incredible gifts and offerings don't get into the hands of people it could really help & transform their lives. Which is such a disservice to your work and for them! 

Let's uncover these pitfalls and their solutions so you can launch with clarity and confidence. And start receiving consistently and abundantly! 

1. Trying to Appeal to Everyone (that you end up attracting no one)

Mistake: Casting your net too wide will only dilute your message and leave you struggling to connect with the right audience. More people is not better. Dialing in your niche and attracting your people will not only mean aligned clients find you but you will have happy clients because your offering is MADE for them.

Solution: Focus on your ideal client and targeted niche (which we explore deeply in Create Space because there are many aspects of your charts that point to this). Why is niching so important? People need to understand that your offering is exactly for them and will solve a problem they are having. If they don't see themselves in your messaging and offering, they won't invest. 

Bonus tip: Often you are guiding on something you have moved through, so speak to your past self and share what you needed to know at that time.

2. Overcomplicating Your Offering and Not Being Specific Enough

Mistake: I see so many thinking they need to “add more” to their offerings to make it seem more valuable but it gets overcomplicated. Confused, overwhelmed people don't invest. 

Solution: People need to know exactly how you can help them solve a problem they have. Being too vague, open-ended and too wishy-washy will mean your offering falls on deaf ears. People will think your offering is just a nice-to-have but a must-have! Adding too many features or services can overwhelm both you and your audience. Simplify your offering. Start with one clear, impactful offering that will create consistent revenue. Once that's established, you can expand. 

3. Competing on Price and not Value

Mistake: If you compete by lowering your price, you will be a price-based commodity business. You will attract clients based on lowest price concessions. This is a sure-fast way to lead you to your Not Self of frustration and burn out.

Solution: Compete on value, not price. Value is not how much you give, but your ability to help someone solve a problem they have. Creating an offering that streamlines that process is highly valuable and priceless to your ideal client.

4. Skipping Market Research

Mistake: You may think you know your ideal client and audience in and out. But one thing I have learnt through my own experience and successful entrepreneurs, market research is everything. Never assume what your audience wants without validating it.

Solution: Talk to your potential market. I love to have one-on-one conversations to understand their needs. Use their language in your content and marketing materials. Go back to your own journals and reflect on how you were feeling at the time you needed support. This is absolute gold!

6. Ignoring Your Natural Genius and Strengths, and Replicating what's already being done

Mistake: Creating a business that's not aligned with your natural talents or Human Design takes you off course and leads to burnout, frustration and making things so much harder than they need to be. You have these gifts for a reason because your Soul needed them to fulfil your purpose. Don't just follow trends that don't work for you. 

Solution: Build your business around your strengths and unique energy. Gone are the days of being generic & profitable. The market is craving authenticity, differentiation and uniqueness! Without understanding the true depth of your energetic blueprint & aligned strategy for success, you'll end up creating a business that just replicates another, works against you or even repels the clients & community you desire. You and your gifts have unmatched value - so why would your business be any different! Look to your HD over how you 'should' do it.

7. Overlooking Joy in Your Process

Mistake: Building a business that feels like a grind will eventually drain you. If you burn yourself out in the launch process, you have nothing to give once your offering starts. 

Solution: Listen to your intuition and desires. Prioritise self care and nervous system regulation practices through the rollercoaster of emotions. Leverage your energetic aura, intuitive authority, role in the market, message to deliver and service to spread. When you enjoy the process, it's easier to stay committed, creative and inspired. Don't make the mistake of creating a business that feels hard and you hate.

Let's create a business that works for you, not the other way around!

Imagine a business where:

• Your ideal clients find you.

• Your offers are in high demand.

• You're consistently booked and earning a sustainable income.

• Income flows consistently, month after month.

• You have a predictable revenue stream.

• You can finally relax and enjoy the fruits of your labor.

ENTER Create Space, that will guide you through a step-by-step process to:

• Create a business that aligns with your energetic make up.

• Identify your ideal client niche archetype based on your Human Design.

• Craft irresistible offers that align with your unique strengths.

• Create a promised transformation that will result in happy clients receiving solutions to their problems.

• Establish yourself as an expert in your market and create a community that values your point of view.

• Develop a marketing strategy and launch plan that attracts your dream clients effortlessly.

• Draft compelling messaging that resonates deeply with your audience and positions you as a leader in your market.

• Pricing practices and financial tracking templates.

• Soo much more!

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End of Year 2024 Reflection Journal Prompts

I recently stumbled across these journal prompts to support you in learning and reflecting on 2024 and taking all those learnings and wisdom into 2025.

Check out this blog to then create your vision for 2025.

Create a sacred space with yourself and your journal and flow through the below:

Year in Review - The Big Picture

How do I really feel about this last year?

What were the 3 words that define my 2024 experience?

What was my predominant theme or pattern?

What significant transformations occurred?

What surprised me most about my journey?

Growth & Evolution

What parts of myself have I outgrown?

What new aspects of myself have I discovered?

What shadows came into the light?

What triggered my biggest growth edges?

What old stories am I ready to release?

What new narratives am I embracing?

Inner Landscape

How has my relationship with myself evolved?

What self-care practices proved most nurturing?

When did I feel most aligned with my authentic self?

What boundaries did I learn to honor?

What emotions need more space for expression?

What aspects of myself are asking for more acceptance?

Relationships & Community

How has my understanding of healthy relationships deepened?

What qualities do I now recognize as non-negotiable in relationships?

Who showed up for me in unexpected ways?

How did I show up differently in my relationships?

What relationship patterns am I ready to transform?

Where could I extend more compassion (to self or others)?

Purpose & Values

What activities brought me alive?

What values became clearer through my experiences?

What choices reflected my deepest truth?

What impact did I have that felt meaningful?

What contributions am I most proud of?

What new purpose is emerging?

Energy & Wellbeing

What consistently energized me?

What consistently drained me?

What new practices supported my wellbeing?

What helped me feel most grounded?

What brought unexpected joy?

What wisdom did my body share?

Integration & Moving Forward

What lessons am I carrying forward?

What healing feels complete?

What healing is still in process?

What seeds am I planting for the future?

What support do I need to call in?

What hidden gifts from challenges can I now recognize?

Final Reflections

What else feels important to acknowledge?

What gratitude wants to be expressed?

What forgiveness wants to be offered?

What celebration wants to be had?

What promise do I want to make to myself?

Peak Moments & Joy

Brought me the most joy:

Unexpected joy:

Moment that made you laugh the hardest:

Space or environment that brought you peace:

Growth & Transformation

Most profound lesson:

Challenge you're now grateful for:

Surprising challenge that led to growth:

Pattern you became aware of:

What felt heavy that now feels lighter:

Moment you chose courage over comfort:

Relationships & Connections

Most meaningful new connection:

Relationship that evolved most significantly:

Boundary you're glad you set:

Personal Development

Habit you're most proud of developing:

Risk you're glad you took:

Dream you began pursuing:

Inspiration & Learning

Favorite podcast episode and why it resonated:

Most impactful book and its key message:

Start 2025 with these Journal Prompts to set yourself up for success

Happy New Year!

Even if you aren't big on the celebrations, there is something beautifully powerful about an agreed collective energy spurring new beginnings and starting a fresh foot forward. It feels like a reignition of aligned action, hope, motivation and inspiration – and provides the perfect time to reconnect, redirect and claim the life you wish to live!

In the spirit of new year, new me (just kidding, but you really can reinvent yourself whenever you desire) – I wanted to share a little ritual I do at the beginning of every year. I love to get still, quiet, with myself and create intentions for the year ahead. It is an incredible way to start intentional forward movement, reflect/redirect on your progress throughout the year and then celebrate your growth at the end of the year.

If you want change in your life, you need to change the way you see yourself and how you move through the world. It starts with your thoughts and intentions, then your behaviour and manifestations follow suit. Because where your intention goes, your energy flows. 2024 was the year that I really went for it, inspired by what I could do when I set my mind, body and spirit towards anything. And I received so much in return – all because I honoured the intentions I set, without talking myself out of it when I doubted myself or things got challenging. I stayed on the course and boy am I grateful I did.

Below are my journal prompts that I love to open and create the space for an intentional and expansive year following. It's like creating a little spell and watching it unfold as you take action and are supported by the Universe. I create a sacred moment with my journal (or notes app on my laptop!) and allow the clarity, the dreams and my vision for the year drop in. You can't do this wrong, and it can change / develop with time. Don't be afraid to go big! You will become the person who aligns with what you are calling in.

Sit with the below:

// What do I want to create this year? (any desires, manifestations, changes, feelings you wish to experience).

// Who will I need to be this year in order to do the above? (think the energy you need to embody, the qualities and traits of character you need to have for your intentions to manifest)?

// In light of the above, what is my guiding anchor word for 2025? (1 or 2 words that encompasses what you desire and who you will need to embody). For example, my word is devotion: to my bigger collective life's work, to my clients, to my spiritual growth, to my home & relationships. This devotion carries me past any insecurities, fears or ego worries. 

// In embodying the above, what will I need to create more time for, give more energy to and step more into my power?

One lesson for me in 2024 was that what you desire, you need to give (we live in a reciprocal world). If you want more love, you need to give more. If you want more abundance, you need to give and circulate more money and support etc. Whatever you give and do, you will receive back TENFOLD.

// What needs to be released for the above growth and manifestations to occur? Think limiting beliefs, patterns, procrastinating, talking yourself out of things, believing fear. Make a little promise to yourself of the changes that you can start making, and BIG TIP start moving towards fear - not away. It is your guiding force.

// Looking back on 2025 (one year ahead), what would you be so proud and grateful that you did? What would make 2025 feel truly successful (growth, impact, creation, difference, feelings, confidence)? This should feel a little stretchy, scary and big. Because remember, you are becoming the person who naturally aligns with your manifestations and word of the year.

Enjoy my loves! May 2025 be your best yet!

Do you feel frustrated in your career or business and see people online who are living the life you desire but you don’t know how to do it your way?

Do you feel confused on your place in the market, unsure how to monetise your gifts and start a business that gives more than it takes?

Do you feel lost in the sea of what you “should” do when creating a community and clientele base, and it feels like you are feeding a black hole of nothingness?

I get it, but it doesn't have to be so hard. You just need to understand your way, and create the clarity, structure and confidence needed to support you supporting others.

Join us in CREATE SPACE: for (future) conscious entrepreneurs to clarify & launch their offering their way and create a business that leverages your strengths, provides consistent revenue and is actually enjoyable.

Live coaching calls start 16 January 2025, along with detailed modules to help you find clarity and confidence in making your biggest business leaps yet!

Claim the life you desire, be your own boss, create your own hours, define yourself as a leader in the market and be your most fulfilled, purposeful Self. 

I want you to feel SO deeply held, clear, empowered and inspired to finally step into your power and purpose in 2025. All while creating a beautiful, spacious, abundant life you desire.

What even is Human Design?

Even as a Human Design Teacher, this is still hard to answer because no words seem to suffice the deep relief, awareness and knowings that you receive once you understand your Human Design. It’s one of those “need to try it out and you will see” kind of things.

It means different things for different people, and depends on if you lean more into the spiritual or science side of things (or both). Luckily, Human Design serves both. 

As someone who loves the practical and esoteric, Human Design scratched my itch when I was asking so many questions and not feeling like I was receiving any answers. It was the first time I felt truly seen and understood. I was equal parts “how does it know so much about me!” and “wow I am really not living a life true to me”. It helped me muster the courage to forgo my legal career for a more aligned, fulfilling path.

I see Human Design as the language and blueprint of your Soul or Highest Self. It shows you how to become the best version of yourself, and how to receive all the fulfilment that is destined for you. Whenever you doubt or second guess your value or what you are here to do in this lifetime, it serves as a reminder of your innate essence and intuitive knowing.  It gives you an understanding of your unique gifts, mission, self-expression and way of creating in this world. In other words, you want the tools for how to get to know your “deconditioned” self that isn’t influenced and impacted by generational and societal expectations.

Technically speaking, Human Design is a modality that combines ancient wisdom (Kabbalah, I-ching, Tree of Life, Chakra System, Astrology) & genetic physics to give your master energetic blueprint. At birth, each of us receive our unique Human Design blueprint. Your blueprint captures specific details about what makes you uniquely you: your strengths, your weaknesses, your traits, your energetic needs, your gifts, your intuition, your roles, and many other elements that make up who you are. 

For those who lean more into the science side, Human Design gives a practical framework of how to use your energy to create more flow & ease in your life, and less resistance and struggle. It is a system of self awareness, that offers an energetic map of how to move through the world with greater peace, satisfaction, success, surprise & excitement. Essentially to flow with life, rather than forcing, pushing, striving or feeling burnt out in the process. It shows you how to make your best decisions, use your energy to thrive (not just survive), your leadership & creative style and your greatest strengths to leverage in work & life.

It can tell you down to what best environments support you, business structure, who your audience is, your purpose, your life’s theme, how you best communicate, relationship style — honestly the list goes on.This is your life manual of how to create your reality, run your business and thrive in your relationships that actually feels good and manifests what you desire.

Human Design helps the logical conscious mind “make sense” of your intuitive inner landscape and understand how to make the most impact & success in the external. This wisdom creates safety in our body and trust in our inner knowing to follow your intuition and cultivate your unique path. It was created in a time when we have lost that trust and connection with ourselves. Now we have this extremely logical and intricate system to help our conscious mind get on board with what our intuitive body already knows. 

Your Human Design is highly individualised for You. It gifts us language and tools for understanding, accepting and celebrating our unique part to play in the world — rather than trying to be something you’re not.

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When I began to live Human Design, everything started to flow. I quit my law career, moved overseas, started my own businesses and lived on the beaches of Mexico, Costa Rica, Spain doing what I love, what fulfills me, and getting paid for it. I am now living on the beautiful Sunshine Coast teaching Human Design in my Advanced Human Design Certification and holding my Rest Assured Retreats. 

I am more successful and fulfilled than I thought possible doing the thing that brings me such joy. 

My wish is to similarly provide you with the permission to be your most authentic Self and manifest your desires. 

I’m here to remind you that what you feel called towards is not only possible, but inevitable if you just start moving. 

Every chart and person is SO different, so:

GENERATE YOUR FREE HUMAN DESIGN CHART HERE

Prepare for your life to be changed once you begin your experiment of returning to your most free, authentic self. Human Design will change the way you see yourself and the world around you. You will begin to see life as full of opportunity and possibility, while seeing your power, potential and strengths. Release the pressure of trying to ‘figure life out’ from a heady place (how is that working for you?) and instead, learn to connect and listen to your intuitive knowing, and allow your naturalness and creative force flow from you. This is how you create your own heaven on earth and actually make your desires happen.

Moving through the fear of being seen

You don’t have to bare it all online!

I hear so often, “I really want to get into this work but I am just not the person who wants to speak face to camera or share all my vulnerable life moments”.

And you know what my answer is? (Unlike other coaches that may say you have to!)

“Please don't then!!”

Where did we go so far that we feel like its necessary to bare your heart and soul to absolute strangers on the internet? That in order to “help” people, you have to be so vulnerable and share your most deepest, hardest, challenging and raw moments of your life (cue crying video). Where did this become a prerequisite to being a trustworthy, “authentic person” and a “limiting belief” if you don't do it. 

Don't get me wrong, I am all about transparency, authenticity and vulnerability. But you don't owe anyone your full vulnerability and rawest moments.

It makes me sad to think that many incredible women aren't stepping into their purpose for fear that they need to do that. 

There is a difference between fear of being seen and wanting to keep your heart protected.  There is a difference between sharing something because “it makes you more relatable” vs genuinely wanting to share what you have moved through (because that will never feel forced). If there comes a moment that you WANT to share that - amazing! Go for it!!

But at the end of the day, protect your heart. You don't have to say all the details but share the learnings, realisations, perspectives, process, your wisdom - that you have cultivated from your life experience. People feel the WEIGHT in your words rather than needing to tell them all that you went through to receive that now knowing. This should be more of a priority.

I rarelyyy ever post talking to camera - not because I am afraid of it but because it hasn't really felt natural, so I don't force it. I have always felt like my podcast was more my space. If I do feel called to grab my camera and speak, then I will. But I don't see it as a prerequisite for success & community creation. 

Don't let this be a reason to stop you from stepping into this coaching space. You set the expectation of what you are available for! 

You can share, be seen, serve in a way that feels true for you!

You never ever ever have to self sacrifice for the sake of success. 

Don't let it be the reason you don't start the business or share your wisdom.

So now that's out of the way - do you have a message, deep down desire & mission to help people -  there is an element of putting yourself out there and actually sharing that. So if you are afraid of being seen, here are some of my tips:

// Look at where you are judging others or have witnessed judgement of others - when we judge others, it is a reflection of where we judge ourselves and have a shadow of not allowing ourselves to fully express. We never ever want to be on the other end of the judgement that we or others have given. My past self would have 1000% judged me now, because she didn't let herself be authentic or take up space. Until I went inward, healed those shadow aspects, celebrated other people doing the thing I previously judged - did I no longer fear it. I realised that judgement is more about that person, than about me (because I had been the judger before). Talk about FREEING being someone with absolutely no judgement towards others.

// Connect with the inner child of you that is afraid of being seen, misunderstood, rejected and abandoned. I love to use the practice of IFS (that I will be teaching you inside the Certification) to access, heal, and send love to that part of yourself. This is POWERFUL because it gets to the core, root subconscious belief rather than bandaid approach. Your inner child needs to feel safe & protected - how are you helping them feel that?

// Regulate your nervous system before, after and during “being seen”. If you are putting yourself out there, your nervous system and body can go into fight or flight. It can feel like it's safety and survival is threatened because you are going against “the pack” (we need community to survive). So please breathe through it, EFT tapping, saying the sound “voooom” as you tap and regulate your body. Tell yourself “I am safe, I am safe”. Then get support either from nature or a loved on - this gives the feeling of unconditional love & acceptance. Do not, I repeat, do not check your phone, the likes, the reception - it will make it only worse. Celebrate yourself for doing the scary thing, regardless of the reception!

Take it slow, this is big work. Especially if you have a 5 profile line. When you allow yourself to naturally and authentically be seen for your sharings & knowings - you will feel truly FREE and no longer held back. But again, you do not need to feel like you have to be an open book that bares it all! You just do you! 

If you want to dive in deeper to moving through the fear of being seen, I recorded a podcast earlier this year below!

Sending so much love!! Honestly so proud of you, I know this work is MASSIVE. Fear of being seen used to be debilitating for me (to the extent that I broke up with my partner, moved overseas and blocked everyone from my home city on instagram so that they couldn't see this new identity and life I was creating). Please don't go to my extremes haha! 

If I can do it, so can you!

Let’s bust a myth: the Market is NOT oversaturated

THE MARKET ISN'T OVERSATURATED, 

YOUR MIND IS JUST FINDING AN EXCUSE TO STAY THE SAME

Who is guilty of their mind talking them out of something because “so many people are already doing it”, “the market is saturated”, “it's too late - there is too much competition”? 

Sound familiar? Been there. And wow, what a little trick your mind is making you believe so you don't step into any form of change. It stops you from doing something that could be incredible for you because of this little fib!

Let me tell you a little something about your brain's RAS system. Whatever you are interested, curious or love, your mind becomes tasked to noticing it so you will see more of it. Your world isn't what is around you, but what you NOTICE. So if you are interested in Human Design, Astrology, Self Development or Coaching - your brain will find it EVERYWHERE. You will think that everyone's news feed looks just like yours. But it isn't!

But there is a reason why you think that it is everywhere - it's not reality, it's your RAS system filtering what is important vs not important to YOU. Have you noticed that when you want a certain object, car, shoe - you begin to notice it everywhere?

It is because your RAS system is noticing it. Not because there is actually anymore of them compared to others. It filters out all the other cars, shows, objects that you don't care about. 

So, when it comes to stepping towards your desires - please don't let the reason why you don't because you think “the space is already filled”. 

THERE IS SO MUCH DEMAND FOR GOOD HUMAN DESIGN COACHES & GUIDES, AND NOT ENOUGH SUPPLY.

I don't use those capitals lightly!

The market is not too saturated, I repeat it is not. If anything, there is not enough good supply for all the growing demand.

Just because you aren't the first, doesn't mean there isn't space for you. There is billions of people on this planet, and many that will connect directly with how YOU share it. 

It is ONLY the beginning for wellness, spirituality, coaching and HD is so incredibly niche. The wellness and spirituality market is BOOMING and predicted to exceed 8.7 TRILLON in 2027. With an estimated 15% of global consumer spending is on wellness related services and products! 

For more it is about 90% of my spending haha! If something will make me feel better, flow better or enjoy life more - I am throwing my money at it. Because it is a high value to me - my experiences and enjoyment here!

And I personally believe Human Design is yet to have it's full hay day! But it's coming - more and more people are finding out about it and wanting to know MORE. Human Design is the future!

AI, websites and apps are great to dip your toe in. But there is NOTHING like a human-to-human connected, intuitive, highly practical session or offering. People are craving human-ness, depth, connection, authenticity and tangible guidance that will move the needle forward in their lives. And that's where you can come in.

Being an exceptional coach or reader is so much more than reciting information. I teach Advanced Human Design in an empowered, practical and life-changing way. You will not only learn the science and knowledge of Human Design, but how to intuitively use the system to create massive transformations to all you share the system with.

Think about when you first discovered your Human Design and how life-changing that was - YOU can give that to others!

Then you can go and share it YOUR way. Create books, offerings, courses, apps, products, services - the options are endless. OR it can just be for you and your own enjoyment and enrichment of your life. 

Will you join us for the Advanced HD Certification?

What was my most life-changing decision?

 No, it's not leaving my law career or moving countries or starting my Human Design business - while I am SO glad I made those decisions.

The biggest and most important decision that led to all the above and brought me so much more was: Choosing to follow my intuition over my mind – and deciding to be decisive!

Not just when it was easy, obvious or uncomplicated. But especially when it was hard, challenging, uncomfortable & shit scary. I always said I was indecisive but really that was a protection mechanism, my emotional authority meant I never felt 1000% sure but that didn't mean I should spend my life sitting on the fence. 

My life changed when I decided to finally make the decisions my intuition called me towards, without being certain or 100% sure where it was all going.

I hear this so often, “I feel my gut but my mind talks me out of it.” “I get an intuitive feeling but I don’t really follow it”. Waiting for your mind & intuition to be on the same page will mean you’ll likely wait forever.

There is this idea that following your intuitive call is easy! HELL NO - It's going directly against your conditioning and protection mechanisms that you built up over the years. 

Having doubt does not mean it’s the wrong decision. You have two opposing voices - your mind & your intuition. One wanting sameness & the other change.

If you desire change, your mind can’t give you that. It’s wired for sameness & to avoid risk. Change requires risk. So it’ll say, “maybe tomorrow” “not right now” “that’s not possible”. Your mind is full of conditioning and what you have always done - and when I decided to no longer live in fear, lack & smallness - my life transformed.

Only your intuition can guide you towards that change. The best decision you’ll ever make is to start experimenting with following your intuition. Everything good, explorative, fulfilling and enriching comes from this place. And often, it is behind a fear - it is the human initiation into becoming the person who creates & aligns with what you want.

You don’t need to “wait” until you are braver, more knowledgeable, more fit, more confident, more {fill in the blank}. The feelings & peace you’re seeking doesn’t come from becoming something else, but becoming more of who you actually are. All of you.

If you’re here, you probably have a growth mindset. But where are you creating blocks & barriers for your own growth?

Where do you not let yourself take the leap and do the thing your body & soul WANT?

7 years into my Human Design Experiment

I am so unbelievably grateful for my past self who did the scary things. I remember sitting in my 9-5 law cubicle (in reality, 7-7), feeling like my soul was being sucked out of my body. I desired change & knew life had to be for something “more”, but it felt too far out of reach.

I was so scared, nervous and apprehensive to make the change. But I couldn't ignore that inner call within me - and I am SO glad I didn't! 

When I started my Human Design experiment and actually started to decondition - I see it as the moment I became the active and intentional creator of my life. 

I released the pressure to know exactly why I was feeling called to where I was being called and instead, I broke it down step by step, and followed my intuition & curiosities. 

I flew across the world & invested in learning Human Design - a modality I loved, had been deeply impacted by and spoke to every person who would listen about it! It was a future career that felt for the first time, truly intuitively aligned. (Now you have this Certification that has EVERYTHING you would ever need so you don't have to go to the extreme lengths & investments I went to study this system). I was still scared but I remember feeling a wave of excitement, adrenaline & pride for starting to create movement of what I knew I was here for: to help guide people in the way I wish I had been supported.

Human Design gave me the practical framework to be able to guide clients through BIG transformations. And now, I have a business that gives to me more than Law ever did or could. I earn more and feel way more fulfilled. 

Now, thousands of incredible humans have flowed through my sessions, courses, workshops, Retreats, Certification & community. I dreamed of this: feeling in my purpose, doing exactly what I am meant to be doing, so much financial freedom & abundance, and serving incredible people. I attribute all that I have created and this fulfillment to Human Design.

As coaches, I believe it is imperative to understand someone’s HD before giving guidance professionally. It gives us a framework that will leave people in dumbfounded that you can articulate and see what they are moving through, better than they could themselves. 

HD takes out the guesswork - it provides direct access & language to help your clients understand, accept & celebrate what makes them unique in this world. Leaving them feeling so seen and supported - and you being a must-have leader in your spaces.

I am very excited for our upcoming Advanced Human Design Certification cohort. I teach you the practical tools, theory & structure that also encourages your own intuitive movement within. 

You will learn everything you need to know to start sharing Human Design professionally & in your own personal journey. And I can 1000% guarantee you will feel prepared and supported in building your business and your relationship to yourself will massively and positively change. It never ceases to amaze me the transformations that happen in the space! 

When forks in the road start to appear, you are being given a chance to change your existence

You’ll notice that as you open & evolve, what was your pre-determined path & habitual way of thinking is no longer your “only” option. With this new awareness, different options start to appear. You see the life you are currently living & also the untapped potential life brewing within you. Forks in the road start to appear.

It’s not that we will always have these BIG forks in the road that alter our life forever. But little forks in the every day. All these mini sliding door moments or decisions that can shift our reality, just from making a different choice. Whether you follow your gut or not. Whether you do the scary thing or not. Whether you choose an option from sameness, or from potential. Neither necessarily better or worse, but having the awareness that you have the choice.

We can say we want a different existence but stay in the same habitual behaviours as always. The Einstein quote, “you can’t solve a problem from the same mind that created it.” If you want change, it does mean you need to do something different. It means making decisions as your intuitive self, not from fear, lack or not enough.

When a new option or potential way of being arises - instead of instantly discounting & continuing in your usual habitual way - stop, sink into your body & ground in your intuition. Do you feel an expansion or a curiosity sparked? The answer will become clear which is the decision of your true self. The mind will do its usual thing and give you a plethora of reasons why not to. But start to experiment in this space of the unknown and intrigue.

We get little hints of what that potential life would be like:

// when we see other people doing something we deep down know is for us.

// when we trust our gut, do the the risky thing & are rewarded.

// when we let our mind imagine & feel the expansion of truth in our body.

// when someone we trust & respect reflects back our value & potential.

// when we start deconditioning & see our life transform.

// when we are present in the adventure of life - not waiting for your yearly holiday to explore.

// when we feel deeply satisfied & successful - based not on external validation, but internally fulfilled.

Little forks show up everywhere: you get to decide whether you continue traveling in the same energy or try that new way of being. Whether you act from the intuition or mind. Then you have muscle memory for the big life-altering forks.

Is there a possibility you can choose an alternate option than what you would habitually do from fear or sameness? That’s where that change you’re seeking lies.

To take the unchartered new forks in the road takes bravery. It means you’ll step through fear, societal norms & go against the grain. It requires intuitive decisions-making that we never were taught to trust. But it’s so so worth it!!

Life can be one big beautiful, abundant exploration, if you let it.

The coaching industry is changing

The wellness, coaching & self development industry is changing. Generic cookie-cutter approaches just don’t cut it. People are craving highly personalised, intuitive, practical guidance that WORKS for them.

Enter: human design

Deep down, you know that you are here to guide others, but you still feel like a bit of an imposter. You want to confidently step into your role, but you just need a framework to be able to intuitively flow through (enter Human Design - people will think you are in their brain / life with the amount of awareness & wisdom you will share to them).

I believe HUMAN DESIGN IS THE FUTURE.

Gone are the days that generic cookie-cutter coaching practices suffice. We are too switched-on for that now! People want highly personalised, intuitive and practical guidance that applies to them - and only them.

Things may not have started or taken off because your past study doesn't feel “enough” - no matter how many courses you have taken. 

THIS Certification is the last course you will ever need. 

(I have had many women come to me after not being satisfied with other courses, and finding exactly what they wanted/needed here). 

The Advanced Empowered HD method is a 20-week Transformational Space where you will not only will you learn the extensive depth and transformational framework of Human Design, but you will learn how to empower your clients intuitively & practically. Stop trying to self study, and learn everything you will need to know to be an expert in Human Design - while being mentored along the way.

WARNING: Human design + aligned action typically leads to massive growth and abundance, without the hustle. 

Tune into your intuitive authority to see if this program is right for you; if you feel a expansive excitement - I would love to have you!

Myth Busting Human Design Misconceptions

Next month, I am starting our next cohort in the Advanced Human Design Certification  (last chance for early bird TOMORROW!). And it got me thinking about how important it is to receive your information from a reliable, empowering source (the internet can be a dark place!). 

I am so passionate about sharing Human Design in an empowered, IN-DEPTH, highly personalised, intuitive way. If it feels constrictive & prohibitive - firstly, question where you are getting your information from. And secondly, leave it!! 

Here are some big MYTHS I see people think and say that we need to BANISH:

MYTH: Manifestors are always extroverted

Many Manifestors don’t resonate with the “loud trailblazer” stereotype. Because they are here to initiate, it is often assumed they must be naturally extroverted & a ball-buster (based on patriarchal ways of leadership). But often Manifestors are introverted and prefer solitude or small, intimate gatherings over being in large groups or the center of attention. Being a Manifestor has nothing to do with their level of extroversion or introversion. Being authentically you is.

MYTH: Generators & MGs are the workhorses with endless energy

You are not a slave. I repeat. You are not designed to self sacrifice and just make someone else’s dreams or success come true. You have incredible access to life force energy but only when it is from a full gut yes. Otherwise, it will only drain & suppress you. You need rest and recovery time also - your body isn’t meant to go, go, go always.

Every human needs rest & open space - even lit up Generators or MGs. The most important thing is that you listen to your body and be mindful that the most satisfying rest comes when you’ve fully used up your energy doing things you love, whether it’s working, moving your body, or spending time with your favourite people.

MYTH: 4 profile lines like to network

Traditional networking is a 4 line worst nightmare. Being in a contrived place with a bunch of strangers that you need to work the room - no thank you! 4 lines are people persons but only to their people. They are the glue that holds their close community together - that may even just be a few people. Quality over quantity always. Never draining your energy on relationships that don’t serve or make you happy.

MYTH: 2 profile lines feel like a natural genius

Not usually the case on first-instance - but Human Design helps you see and value your inner genius. 2 lines are designed to lean into what feels most natural, because it is for a reason. Most of the time though (prior to finding HD), 2 profile lines have blindspots on what they are so naturally gifted at, or they don't think it's a big deal. It is often assumed that if it is “easy”, then it must be the same for everyone. NO! You are here to serve the world with exactly THAT. Let HD illuminate your strengths & PURPOSE.

MYTH: Projectors must passively wait for people to invite them into life

No!! This is the most disempowering narrative. You do not, I repeat, do NOT need an invite to start a business, do something new, follow your bliss in anyway. It is just a mechanism to ensure that you don’t waste your energy on sharing your gifts with people & places that don’t see or value you - because what’s the point! You will just feel bitter. You only need an invitation when it is giving guidance, going into business collaboration in their space & in relationship (so you know you’re valued as you). Otherwise, do your thing!

When it does come to receiving invites in work & life, it is not a passive process. People can’t invite you if they don’t know you exist or what you can offer them. Projectors attract invitations when they cultivate their gifts & mastery (mine is Human Design - best to choose a modality you are curious in), recognise their value & make themselves visible - letting the world know they exist & have powerful gifts to share. Never begging, just sharing value that invites people in to want more. Once that recognition is established - there will be no shortage of invites

MYTH: Reflectors can’t be around people because they are too sensitive.

The right people & places will not always take from you. You just need to be discerning of how much you can or want to take on. When you are connected & attuned to your body, and honour it’s responses - you will leave situations before it’s fully overwhelmed your system. You need to be your own advocate & are never powerless.

MYTH: MGs and Generators will always be sure when it’s 100% a gut yes

Most people have very overactive minds that talk us out of what our gut or intuition says. Your gut speaks & two seconds later your mind talks you out of it. Especially if you have an emotional authority, it can create indecision & doubt. So many wait for certainty but that doesn’t exist in intuitive living. Moving forward despite the doubt will help you create a stronger trusting relationship with your gut & create more of what you want.

ALWAYS use your strategy & authority when deciding what is true for you. Don’t just take anything for face value, it’s all meant to be your experimentation and embodiment of what feels best and right for you.

Love,

Hillary xx

The Ajna Center: Overcoming the Pressure of Mental Conditioning & the Overthinking Monkey Mind.

On the pod, I am diving into the Ajna (Mind) Awareness center within the Energy Center Series.

Out of ALL the energy centers, I see this as the one that most trips us up and holds us hostage in our conditioning and Not Self.

So many of us live purely from mental pressure and chatter (and I get it, intrusive thoughts and limiting beliefs used to live rent free in my mind 24/7). It wasn't until I understood how the mind works (it is wired for risk-adversity and sameness), did I then start to WITNESS and not believe it as fact. And instead, connected to my body and intuition as my decision maker. 

Before asking “what am I supposed to do?" “what’s my full plan & direction” or “where am I meant to go?” First ask “how connected am I to myself?” Because your answers, purpose & direction will naturally flow on once you are. 

Use your HD as the directory guide to connect with those parts of yourself. Then with this awareness, it is a daily practice to tune in, listen to your body’s feedback & honour where you feel called to go. Trusting your gut, or your intrigue, or excitement and moving in THAT direction. And trust me, it never fails - in hindsight it will all make sense.

Don’t try to reverse engineer it. That’s all from the pressure of the mind & leads us down the path of our conditioning. Connect inwards & then you’ll start connecting the dots outward. It is this daily devotional practice that is the foundation to create the life & change you desire.

I dive in how to decondition your mind and be in HEALTHY expression of your mind (no longer dictating your life and choices from the overthinking, monkey mind). In the podcast, I dive into:

// Exploring the Ajna Center

// Understanding Conditioning and Awareness to Rewire your Mind

// The Power of Intuition Over the Mind

// Navigating Mental Pressure and Intuition

// Embracing Uncertainty and Letting Go

// Overcoming Fear (how to feel the fear's discomfort and let it pass so it no longer holds you hostage).

// Embracing Uncomfortability for true Growth

// What it means if you have a Defined vs Undefined Ajna

YOU CAN LISTEN ON APPLE HERE.

YOU CAN LISTEN ON SPOTIFY HERE.

ENJOY! xx

Stop just giving your gifts away for free

I see you, you have a heart of gold and you care. 

People come to you out of seemingly nowhere, because they sense that you can help them. 

You love to support and guide people - you are people's first call when they need advice. 

I know you desire to make a big impact and want to create a business that genuinely helps people.

The problem is, you are starting to get a little resentful and burnt out in the process of just giving it all away!

This is because it goes against the law of exchange - you need to receive for how much you give.

It's not about taking from people - but having the respect for their transformation that they take your words and time SERIOUSLY and actually implement in their lives. And you receive sustainably so you can show up time and time again. 

Money is simply an exchange for solutions received. Where are you not allowing that exchange to happen because “you would do it for free”.

NEWSFLASH: This is why you should create a business for this. 

I would do my current work for free, but it also isn't realistic because we have lives to pay for. Nor is it fair to either parties!

This is the reason why you need to create a sustainable business that supports you helping people and making an impact. YOU need to receive abundantly for the gifts you have - it's natural divine energy movement. The solutions you give need to also receive and be sustained.

Picture this: 6 weeks from now in full clarity, confidence and peace knowing that you are in your power and purpose - creating your dream business and attracting clients that are MADE for your offerings. You are able to go all in as you have deep understanding and embodiment of how to make it happen, YOUR way. You are full of fire & momentum with your action plan to make your desires & impact happen. You feel supported and resourced to LAUNCH into the world!

I GUARANTEE you will feel clear and confident in launching your soul offering, and have the practical foundations to attract your dream clients and consistent revenue.

This is why I have created the Advanced Human Design Certification and Create Space.

These are more than just a self development or business courses - you will TRANSFORM in the process. You will no longer doubt your value, your contribution or your money making abilities - you will be soaring into your biggest expansion!

Imagine 6 weeks from now and FINALLY having your business off the ground 🚀

Will you join us?​

Energy Centers in Human Design

BY FAR, my favourite part of Human Design that gives us the most valuable, tangible information and awareness of our true self vs conditioned self energy is the energy centers (besides the energy type & authority of course). 

But oddly enough, I have noticed that it is the least spoken about online. Expect if you have been in my spaces of course. 

Any perpetual frustration, anger, bitterness, disappointment, burn out or feelings of being lost & confused is often because we are stuck in our conditioned beliefs & behaviours. But most don't even realise it! We might be blaming our boss or partner or family. When really, it's because we are trying to force something or living (forcing) in a way that isn't true or aligned for us. 

But when we become aware of our conditioning, we can change it. If we aren't aware, we remain on autopilot and keep perpetuating what we say we don't want. 

Enter: the knowledge of the energy centers. It breaks down our conditioning so it is tangible, bite size and approachable to start to our process of letting go and rewiring our brain & corresponding behaviour. 

The students in my certification share that it is often the biggest part that moves the needle forward in their lives and in their client's lives & businesses.

So I wanted to create a free resource for you all within the ENERGY CENTER SERIES on the podcast. Each energy center has a theme, and I am going to deep dive into each.

SACRAL ENERGY CENTER: DECONDITIONING YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH WORK

Today, we dropped the sacral center podcast - all about life force creative energy, working, pleasure, desire. GREAT LISTEN! It is all about connecting & following your gut as a Generator & MG and how important that is in creating your impact on the world & drawing in your people. For the non-sacrals, it is about working differently, moving intuitively, preventing (and recovering from) burnout, importance of presence and how slowing down will actually create MORE success (mindblowing I know) and all the strategies I have created to get more out of your time. If you struggle to slow down and rest without guilt - this is a MUST LISTEN!

IDENTITY ENERGY CENTER: DECONDITIONING YOUR IDENTITY & DIRECTION

Last week, we kicked off with the Identity Center - the center that I have most needed to decondition and have created my life's work around that experience.

If you have ever asked yourself “Who am I?” “What is my purpose or direction”. Or resonate with moments in your life of feeling lost, inauthentic, stuck in places or jobs that don't feel good to you, pretending in a role or feeling like you have gone down someone else's direction. Ahem, me with law. Take a listen. You will learn all about the conditioning of the defined and undefined identity center and how to start creating YOUR aligned direction. I also share my take on purpose. You can listen here!

Remember your deconditioning is a process that is like an onion - peeling layer by layer as it presents. The Universe will always present you invitations in your life experience when it is time to unravel something specific. It's not something to rush or think you need to tackle in a day, or even a year.

If you would like to learn MORE about this incredible, indispensable guidance tool, check out the Advanced Human Design Certification.

Time & Pressure: Root Center

I want to talk about time and how we spend it. I know that for many, even that statement can create a ripple of anxiety. I see and hear so many people in my sessions share that they feel like they are running out of time. There is this pressure but it ultimately doesn't create positive feelings or action. It creates overwhelm, procrastination or defeat that their time has passed.

GOSH it couldn't be further from the truth!!

You know that thing that is “too big” or “would take too long” to do? It’s never too late to give it a go. 

No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress, you are still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying. 

You miss every opportunity or possibility that you never give a chance. That’s my definition of actually failing. There is no better time than now.

When we perceive that a HUGE mountain needs to be climbed to get somewhere, it can feel too daunting to start. But really, you don’t have to tackle the mountain top in one day or one season. It’s called life’s work for a reason - there is no final destination, just an extensive portfolio of how you decided to play with life.

You can start, make some headway, take a detour, get back on track, enjoy the view, celebrate your progress, rest, then onto the next peak.

Whether it is establishing a new home, starting a new career or job, launching a project, moving through a fear, changing your relationship to others or yourself. It doesn’t matter how long it may take, when you start taking steps to chip at it, it’ll happen. It has to! And it will happen quicker than you think - we over-inflate what we think it will take when momentum moves pretty quick once you actually start.

Slow progress is better than no action at all.

You have time to change your mind.

You have time to start again.

You have time to learn a new skill.

You have time to reinvent your career.

You have time to find out what you want.

You have time to create your vision.

You have time to live differently to how you do now.

You have time to quit your job & create your thing.

You have time to change your identity & path 10x over.

What you don’t have time for ~ worrying that you missed your chance. Fearing that you’ll run out of time.

Your life is happening while you wish you were further along.

It’s all happening even while you’re wishing it was something different.

Yes, life is short but it’s also very long. It’s never too late. You’ll waste precious time if you think that way.

But you DO need to start creating change if you want change. You can't create difference if you keep perpetuating sameness. You need to CREATE the SPACE for you to work out what your thing is. And most often than not, it means following and exploring what you are curious and excited in. 

CREATE YOUR ALIGNED CAREER AND SHARE WHAT TRANSFORMED YOU: The Advanced Human Design Certification Now Enrolling.

ARE YOU CREATING YOUR LIFE OR BUSINESS FROM YOUR NOT SELF CONDITIONING OR YOUR TRUE SELF INTUITIVE UNIQUE EXPRESSION?

How to know?

One will lead to frustration, bitterness, anger, disappointment (Not Self repercussions). The other will lead to satisfaction, success, peace, flow & surprise (True Self expansion).

The most important & valuable part of the HD experiment is deconditioning. It removes all the behaviors & ways you are creating a life experience that you say you *don’t* want. So you are left with your true essence & intuitive strategy to create what you *do* want - with minimum effort & maximum satisfaction.

We can look to the energy centers to target the self-sabotaging conditioned behaviors that are stopping us from creating an easeful, successful business & life.

When you actively empty out what is holding you stuck & back - you MAGNETISE what is rightfully yours. We can look specifically to (just a few of 9 energy centers):

// Heart (Self worth): Instead of always pushing yourself to work harder, do more, give more value - you can sit back in confidence that your offerings are not only valuable, but transform people’s lives (and your self sacrifice & over-giving doesn’t make the offer better). No more lack of boundaries or being constantly available that leads to burn out or resentment.

// Ajna (Understanding): You no longer stuck in logic & trying to prove that your intuitive nudges are right before acting. You create a trust muscle & leverage your logic for strategy & your intuition for guidance.

// Solar Plexus (Emotions): You have greater awareness of what is for you to take on, and what is not. You have a greater capacity to hold clients because you are more resourced with boundaries & processes that protect YOU.

// Sacral & Root (life force drive & stress): You are no longer working so damn hard for little return. You move intentionally & smartly so that you move the needle forward in a meaningful way that attracts clients, rather than just push for more.

Sustainable success comes from your True Self, NOT your Not Self.

Don’t stay in the same self-sabotaging behaviors I see so many do:

• Believing their mind as fact so never trusting where their intuitive voice is nudging them towards

• Working incredibly hard for little return, and just keep pushing harder hoping for change

• Listening to their conditioning and cookie-cutter advice, over finding their way to do work & life

• Feeling stuck making someone else successful and feel anything but soulfully successful themselves

• Recreating something that they have seen before because they feel disconnected from their own creative expression

• Feeling unsupported and alone in their journey - not reaching out for support

• Staying small and in the safe zone, but feeling burnt out and frustrated

• Not having the full clarity so staying still in analysis paralysis

• Overgiving and overdelivering without strategy or understanding how to best show up

ARE YOU OPERATING FROM THE VOICE OF YOUR CONDITIONING NOT SELF OR TRUE SELF?

ROOT CENTER

Instead of asking, “Have I ticked everything off my to- do list today?”

Ask: “Have I connected with myself & my surroundings mindfully today and moved the needle forward on what matters most?” ˆKnowing I can’t do everything & shouldn’t.

SACRAL

Instead of asking, “Have I been productive enough to earn a rest?”

Ask: “Have I rested enough to be energised to show up meaningfully & purposefully?”

AJNA

Instead of asking, “How can I find all the answers & be 100% certain this will all work out?”

Ask: “How can I embrace inevitable uncertainty & still move forward intuitively?” Because that’s where the goodness & expansion I seek lies.

HEART

Instead of asking, “What more can I do to prove that my work is worthy & value to people?”

Ask: “How can I see the value I give and believe when people tell me that I have helped them? I am not here to save anyone to be valuable, nor should I.

SOLAR PLEXUS

Instead of asking, “How can I help, please & take the pain of everyone that comes to me?”

Ask: “Am I resourced with clear boundaries of how I can help this person?” Because only then can I show up sustainably for them.

SPLEEN

Instead of asking, “Why am I always feeling unwell - what products or supplements do I need to buy?”

Ask: “Am I holding onto something that needs to be released? How can I create deeper connection, safety & ease with my body?”

HEAD

Instead of asking, “What do I want to create?”

Ask: “What inspiring spaces can I put myself in that makes it inevitable to create?”

THROAT

Instead of asking, “What is the perfect statement to say right now for people to think I am smart & know what I am talking about?”

Ask: “Can I release the pressure & trust that the perfect words for that person come when they are meant to be spoken?" I just need to be present & tapped in.

IDENTITY

Instead of asking, “Who am I & what is my one-line lifetime purpose mission statement?”

Ask: “I am an expansive being who is in her purpose when creating my own direction in the present - so how does my energy want to be used today? Because that’s how my purpose unfolds.

We are launching sustainable businesses that factor in YOU in CREATE SPACE. Not a generic business course that leaves you with more questions than answers. You will be supported in creating a business that leverages your strengths, gifts & energetic way to MAKE it HAPPEN - with ease & spaciousness.

I will be there with you EVERY step of the way - guiding, holding you accountable, not just being your cheerleader but someone who will call it how I see it. All with love and the best intentions to help you start making moves and creating your desires. I don't want another minute go past of you working so damn hard for little fulfillment or revenue - you have another way!

What energy are you inviting into your life?

We get to choose the energy we bring into our lives. How we do one thing is often how we do everything. We see the world through our own eyes, stories, perceptions, preferences, biases - it’s not reality. But the beauty is, we can change the way we operate in the world.

We set the intention and our job is to be ready, open & aware as we move through the world and create from that place. Where you put your intention, energy goes and expands. It’s never other people or circumstances stopping us or making us feel a certain way, it’s all our mind. And it’s not as smart as you think, all that worrying & stress about things that will never happen. There are no limits in this world, except in your mind.

This is where YOU get to set the tone of how you would like to show up in work and life.

In order to invite in new energy, we need to release all that isn’t serving us.

Don’t stay in the same self-sabotaging behaviors I see so many do:

• Believing their mind as fact so never trusting where their intuitive voice is nudging them towards

• Working incredibly hard for little return, and just keep pushing harder hoping for change

• Listening to their conditioning and cookie-cutter advice, over finding their way to do work & life

• Feeling stuck making someone else successful and feel anything but soulfully successful themselves

• Recreating something that they have seen before because they feel disconnected from their own creative expression

• Feeling unsupported and alone in their journey - not reaching out for support

• Staying small and in the safe zone, but feeling burnt out and frustrated

• Not having the full clarity so staying still in analysis paralysis

• Overgiving and overdelivering without strategy or understanding how to best show up

^ If you give your energy to these, it’ll only create frustration & resentment in your life.

This is where you get to draw the line in the sand of what you are inviting into your life.

If I think about all the good that has happened in my life, many (if not most) came when my “plans” fell apart. What I’ve learnt is to not resist or force, but get curious and surrender. Even if you don’t feel it while it’s happening, there’s always something on the other side.

You get to choose what energy you invite in - it just takes you being so firm in what it is. And when you are tested (which you will be), you always come back to your intention - it’s your guiding force, not the outside world.

Peace is not about dissolving issues or pain. Inner peace is always there even when difficulties arise. It’s returning back to yourself time & time again, as life takes us through our lessons.

I am incredibly excited to start turning your ideas and visions into reality in Create Space. You will receive the support & guidance of how to create consistent return on your gifts & offerings. It’ll be focused on business creation - all supported on the personalized foundation of your Human Design so you can be sure you are setting it up right from the beginning.