Locating Yourself: Why Your Evolution Matters More Than the Outcome
So often, we want to be anywhere but where we are. We feel the pull toward change but don’t know where to begin. That’s because transformation doesn’t start with the destination—it starts with honestly locating ourselves in the present moment.
It’s like Google Maps. You can enter your desired location, but without your current coordinates, no route will appear.
The same is true for personal growth. You can have the vision, the goals, the desire to evolve—but if you aren’t truthful about where you are now, the path forward remains unclear.
How often do we say, “I don’t know” before even giving ourselves the space to check in? Instead of turning inward, we seek external validation, repeat old narratives, or ask others for answers. We’ve forgotten that we are deeply intuitive, connected, and intelligent beings.
What If You Already Know?
The truth is, you can’t think your way into clarity—you have to feel it.
But feeling isn’t always comfortable. It means sitting with everything—the joy, the grief, the uncertainty—without rushing to fix or bypass it. It’s easy to say, “just feel your feelings and you’ll find your truth”, but we live in a culture where emotions are often treated as inconvenient. We’re taught to suppress, override, and perform instead of being honest about what’s happening inside.
No wonder we feel emotionally constipated—holding everything in—or, on the flip side, like we’re purging emotions so rapidly we can’t keep up.
Thankfully, something is shifting. More people are recognizing the power of feeling, of slowing down, of honoring what’s real. The more we embrace this, the less we need “techniques” to process our emotions and the more we simply allow them to be a natural part of life. Maybe what we need isn’t more tools, but more honesty. More permission to explore the shadowy edges within. More safe spaces. More connection. More time.
Efficiency vs. Connection
On a recent trip to India, we spoke about the contrast between Western efficiency and the deeply communal nature of Indian culture. In the modern world, we’ve been conditioned to believe that efficiency is the highest form of success. But what has it cost us?
Efficiency often means less connection. Less presence. More autopilot. More loneliness.
In a culture rooted in reincarnation, the focus isn’t on getting ahead as fast as possible—it’s on the quality of the experience, the evolution of the soul. The true purpose isn’t just checking off achievements, but deepening self-awareness, contributing to collective healing, and embodying wisdom through experience.
Maybe success isn’t about doing more, faster. Maybe it’s about feeling more, deeper.
The Power of Locating Yourself in the Present Moment
A simple yet profound way to find clarity is to pause, feel into your body, and allow an “I am” statement to arise.
“I’m Hillary, and I feel stuck.”
“I’m Hillary, and I don’t know what this feeling is.”
“I’m Hillary, and I just need rest.”
Putting words to what’s happening inside integrates thinking, feeling, and being. Even if all you can say is, “I feel lost”, that acknowledgment itself is a moment of empowerment—because now, you’ve found yourself in your lostness.
From there, the next step reveals itself. Not the whole path, but just enough light to move forward.
Your Evolution Matters More Than the Outcome
We often obsess over whether something will work out—whether we’ll get the job, keep the relationship, reach the goal. But what if the point was never about making sure it happens?
What if the real purpose was how you change through it?
The job might not be about the position itself, but about finding your own voice.
The relationship might not be about making it last, but about learning self-trust.
The business might not be about the money, but about stepping into your highest self.
The universe is far more invested in your growth than in your ego’s idea of how things should unfold. If something isn’t happening the way you expected, it’s not failure—it’s divine redirection. Because the real success is not in the outcome. It’s in who you become along the way.
Coming Home to Yourself
So today, let’s start small. When someone asks, “How are you?”—pause. Feel. Answer truthfully, even if it’s inconvenient.
Because when we give ourselves the space to be real, we reconnect. We locate ourselves in the present moment. And from there, the path forward becomes clear.
