Letting Go of Attachments
Are You Proving Yourself or Being Yourself?
Have you ever felt like the moment you grip onto something too tightly, whether it’s a relationship, a business goal, or a certain image of success, it slips through your fingers?
That’s not a coincidence. That’s the Universe doing you a favour.
Either, that exact thing in that exact way, wasn’t what is meant in this exact moment for your true soul Self.
Also because anything built on attachment, on the need to prove, on external validation was never truly yours to begin with.
Let me explain…
When we make any person, any business, any goal or anything our 'God' – it isn’t healthy. It isn’t truth. If we put something or someone on that high of a pedestal, we lose our power. Our view is distorted, our priorities are skewed and we lose a sense of ourselves and footing.
Have you ever noticed that when you care less, it all just seems to fall into place quicker or when you least expect it. This is because your whole sense of self and validation has not been attached to that thing. The Universe can’t deliver if it is because your sense of self is grounded regardless.
This is why people always say you need to “let it go” or “surrender to the outcome” with manifesting. If you hold the outcome too tight, you are in a state of constriction and distrust, not light and allowance.
The irony is that the less we seek validation, the more we become magnetic because we are embodying true confidence and alignment.
Are You Making Decisions to Prove Yourself?
Take a moment to reflect:
Are you choosing paths that feel good to YOU, or ones that will make you look good to others?
Are you saying yes because you truly want to, or because you don’t want to disappoint someone?
Are you chasing success, love, recognition because it’s aligned, or because deep down, you don’t feel enough without it?
The truth is, when we operate from a place of needing validation, we’re outsourcing our power. We build businesses, relationships, and identities that aren’t even ours. And at some point, the universe will strip those things away, not as punishment, but as liberation.
Why the Universe Will Strip Attachments From You
Attachment creates resistance. The tighter we hold onto something, the less space we give for divine flow. When we define ourselves by external things (titles, money, relationships) the universe will often remove them to show us:
"You were never meant to define yourself by this. You are already enough."
That you never needed to rely on those things to define or give you worth.
ESPECIALLY if they aren't aligned for you.
Losing what we’re attached to isn’t a loss. It’s a gift. Because what’s truly meant for us can only come when we’re unattached to how it has to look.
Human Design & the Need for External Validation
Your chart holds clues to where you might be seeking validation outside of yourself, look to these specific centers:
Undefined G-Center: Searching for identity, love, or belonging externally in something outside of yourself, and holding onto roles in order to fit in or feel important. Think: wearing masks or choosing roles based on ego rather than your genuine desire and authenticity.
Undefined Ego (Heart) Center: Feeling like you have to prove your worth, overworking, over-promising, or tying your value to achievement. This is what most of the world operates on – no wonder we have such a big self worth problem!
Undefined Throat: Trying to be seen or heard, speaking to get attention rather than when it’s aligned. OR forcing yourself to create and manifest from an unaligned space (i.e. law always felt hard to speak about, whereas I could talk about HD all day long).
Undefined Ajna: Feeling pressure to have certainty, prove your intelligence, or have all the answers.
When you make decisions from these open centers, you’re making them from lack. It has a LOUD conditioned voice that you shouldn’t operate on as fact, but invitation to connect to your deeper Truths within. Every time that voice comes up, you are being given an opportunity to heal it. Remember anything built from lack will eventually crumble.
How to Make Decisions From a Place of Alignment
Check in with your body, not your mind. Your mind will always find reasons to justify what looks “good.” Your body (through your Authority) will always tell the truth. Does something feel hard and wrong? Trust that wisdom.
Ask yourself: Would I still want this if no one saw or praised me for it? If the answer is no, it’s not alignment, it’s validation-seeking.
Does your experience depend on how well it’s received or not received by others (i.e. it was only a good instagram post if you got lots of likes vs am I personally happy with what I shared?) If so, you will be blocking your ability to receive community and authentic connection.
Detach from praise or criticism because both are just reflections of others’ perspectives, not your truth. This TRANSFORMED my sense of expression and community growth exponentially.
Release what isn’t truly yours. If something feels heavy, forced, or like it’s depleting you, it’s a sign you’re holding onto an attachment. Letting go creates space for what actually supports you.
Feel the weight of the “thing” in your body - if it feels “needed” or life/death, you need to work on releasing its attachment and any fear if it did go away.
Trust that what’s removed is making space for something greater. If something is leaving your life, trust that it wasn’t aligned anymore. The void is uncomfortable, but what fills it will be far more expansive.
This week, I invite you to notice where you’re making decisions from a place of needing approval or seeking validation. What would change if you chose only what was true to YOU?
Remember, fulfillment comes from alignment with your body and the Universe, not from human approval or outward achievements. The only person you should be making “proud” is your highest self and divine energy. The more you seek validation from others, the more you disconnect from our true source of divine fulfillment.
When we stop looking outward for validation, we allow the Light to fill us.
The moment you stop seeking validation from others, you create space for divine guidance. And when you act from that place, you don’t just attract success, you align with your soul’s highest path.
Because when you let go of what was never yours, you make space for what always was.
