When forks in the road start to appear, you are being given a chance to change your existence
You’ll notice that as you open & evolve, what was your pre-determined path & habitual way of thinking is no longer your “only” option. With this new awareness, different options start to appear. You see the life you are currently living & also the untapped potential life brewing within you. Forks in the road start to appear.
It’s not that we will always have these BIG forks in the road that alter our life forever. But little forks in the every day. All these mini sliding door moments or decisions that can shift our reality, just from making a different choice. Whether you follow your gut or not. Whether you do the scary thing or not. Whether you choose an option from sameness, or from potential. Neither necessarily better or worse, but having the awareness that you have the choice.
We can say we want a different existence but stay in the same habitual behaviours as always. The Einstein quote, “you can’t solve a problem from the same mind that created it.” If you want change, it does mean you need to do something different. It means making decisions as your intuitive self, not from fear, lack or not enough.
When a new option or potential way of being arises - instead of instantly discounting & continuing in your usual habitual way - stop, sink into your body & ground in your intuition. Do you feel an expansion or a curiosity sparked? The answer will become clear which is the decision of your true self. The mind will do its usual thing and give you a plethora of reasons why not to. But start to experiment in this space of the unknown and intrigue.
We get little hints of what that potential life would be like:
// when we see other people doing something we deep down know is for us.
// when we trust our gut, do the the risky thing & are rewarded.
// when we let our mind imagine & feel the expansion of truth in our body.
// when someone we trust & respect reflects back our value & potential.
// when we start deconditioning & see our life transform.
// when we are present in the adventure of life - not waiting for your yearly holiday to explore.
// when we feel deeply satisfied & successful - based not on external validation, but internally fulfilled.
Little forks show up everywhere: you get to decide whether you continue traveling in the same energy or try that new way of being. Whether you act from the intuition or mind. Then you have muscle memory for the big life-altering forks.
Is there a possibility you can choose an alternate option than what you would habitually do from fear or sameness? That’s where that change you’re seeking lies.
To take the unchartered new forks in the road takes bravery. It means you’ll step through fear, societal norms & go against the grain. It requires intuitive decisions-making that we never were taught to trust. But it’s so so worth it!!
Life can be one big beautiful, abundant exploration, if you let it.
The coaching industry is changing
The wellness, coaching & self development industry is changing. Generic cookie-cutter approaches just don’t cut it. People are craving highly personalised, intuitive, practical guidance that WORKS for them.
Enter: human design
Deep down, you know that you are here to guide others, but you still feel like a bit of an imposter. You want to confidently step into your role, but you just need a framework to be able to intuitively flow through (enter Human Design - people will think you are in their brain / life with the amount of awareness & wisdom you will share to them).
I believe HUMAN DESIGN IS THE FUTURE.
Gone are the days that generic cookie-cutter coaching practices suffice. We are too switched-on for that now! People want highly personalised, intuitive and practical guidance that applies to them - and only them.
Things may not have started or taken off because your past study doesn't feel “enough” - no matter how many courses you have taken.
THIS Certification is the last course you will ever need.
(I have had many women come to me after not being satisfied with other courses, and finding exactly what they wanted/needed here).
The Advanced Empowered HD method is a 20-week Transformational Space where you will not only will you learn the extensive depth and transformational framework of Human Design, but you will learn how to empower your clients intuitively & practically. Stop trying to self study, and learn everything you will need to know to be an expert in Human Design - while being mentored along the way.
WARNING: Human design + aligned action typically leads to massive growth and abundance, without the hustle.
Tune into your intuitive authority to see if this program is right for you; if you feel a expansive excitement - I would love to have you!
Myth Busting Human Design Misconceptions
Next month, I am starting our next cohort in the Advanced Human Design Certification (last chance for early bird TOMORROW!). And it got me thinking about how important it is to receive your information from a reliable, empowering source (the internet can be a dark place!).
I am so passionate about sharing Human Design in an empowered, IN-DEPTH, highly personalised, intuitive way. If it feels constrictive & prohibitive - firstly, question where you are getting your information from. And secondly, leave it!!
Here are some big MYTHS I see people think and say that we need to BANISH:
MYTH: Manifestors are always extroverted
Many Manifestors don’t resonate with the “loud trailblazer” stereotype. Because they are here to initiate, it is often assumed they must be naturally extroverted & a ball-buster (based on patriarchal ways of leadership). But often Manifestors are introverted and prefer solitude or small, intimate gatherings over being in large groups or the center of attention. Being a Manifestor has nothing to do with their level of extroversion or introversion. Being authentically you is.
MYTH: Generators & MGs are the workhorses with endless energy
You are not a slave. I repeat. You are not designed to self sacrifice and just make someone else’s dreams or success come true. You have incredible access to life force energy but only when it is from a full gut yes. Otherwise, it will only drain & suppress you. You need rest and recovery time also - your body isn’t meant to go, go, go always.
Every human needs rest & open space - even lit up Generators or MGs. The most important thing is that you listen to your body and be mindful that the most satisfying rest comes when you’ve fully used up your energy doing things you love, whether it’s working, moving your body, or spending time with your favourite people.
MYTH: 4 profile lines like to network
Traditional networking is a 4 line worst nightmare. Being in a contrived place with a bunch of strangers that you need to work the room - no thank you! 4 lines are people persons but only to their people. They are the glue that holds their close community together - that may even just be a few people. Quality over quantity always. Never draining your energy on relationships that don’t serve or make you happy.
MYTH: 2 profile lines feel like a natural genius
Not usually the case on first-instance - but Human Design helps you see and value your inner genius. 2 lines are designed to lean into what feels most natural, because it is for a reason. Most of the time though (prior to finding HD), 2 profile lines have blindspots on what they are so naturally gifted at, or they don't think it's a big deal. It is often assumed that if it is “easy”, then it must be the same for everyone. NO! You are here to serve the world with exactly THAT. Let HD illuminate your strengths & PURPOSE.
MYTH: Projectors must passively wait for people to invite them into life
No!! This is the most disempowering narrative. You do not, I repeat, do NOT need an invite to start a business, do something new, follow your bliss in anyway. It is just a mechanism to ensure that you don’t waste your energy on sharing your gifts with people & places that don’t see or value you - because what’s the point! You will just feel bitter. You only need an invitation when it is giving guidance, going into business collaboration in their space & in relationship (so you know you’re valued as you). Otherwise, do your thing!
When it does come to receiving invites in work & life, it is not a passive process. People can’t invite you if they don’t know you exist or what you can offer them. Projectors attract invitations when they cultivate their gifts & mastery (mine is Human Design - best to choose a modality you are curious in), recognise their value & make themselves visible - letting the world know they exist & have powerful gifts to share. Never begging, just sharing value that invites people in to want more. Once that recognition is established - there will be no shortage of invites
MYTH: Reflectors can’t be around people because they are too sensitive.
The right people & places will not always take from you. You just need to be discerning of how much you can or want to take on. When you are connected & attuned to your body, and honour it’s responses - you will leave situations before it’s fully overwhelmed your system. You need to be your own advocate & are never powerless.
MYTH: MGs and Generators will always be sure when it’s 100% a gut yes
Most people have very overactive minds that talk us out of what our gut or intuition says. Your gut speaks & two seconds later your mind talks you out of it. Especially if you have an emotional authority, it can create indecision & doubt. So many wait for certainty but that doesn’t exist in intuitive living. Moving forward despite the doubt will help you create a stronger trusting relationship with your gut & create more of what you want.
ALWAYS use your strategy & authority when deciding what is true for you. Don’t just take anything for face value, it’s all meant to be your experimentation and embodiment of what feels best and right for you.
Love,
Hillary xx
The Ajna Center: Overcoming the Pressure of Mental Conditioning & the Overthinking Monkey Mind.
On the pod, I am diving into the Ajna (Mind) Awareness center within the Energy Center Series.
Out of ALL the energy centers, I see this as the one that most trips us up and holds us hostage in our conditioning and Not Self.
So many of us live purely from mental pressure and chatter (and I get it, intrusive thoughts and limiting beliefs used to live rent free in my mind 24/7). It wasn't until I understood how the mind works (it is wired for risk-adversity and sameness), did I then start to WITNESS and not believe it as fact. And instead, connected to my body and intuition as my decision maker.
Before asking “what am I supposed to do?" “what’s my full plan & direction” or “where am I meant to go?” First ask “how connected am I to myself?” Because your answers, purpose & direction will naturally flow on once you are.
Use your HD as the directory guide to connect with those parts of yourself. Then with this awareness, it is a daily practice to tune in, listen to your body’s feedback & honour where you feel called to go. Trusting your gut, or your intrigue, or excitement and moving in THAT direction. And trust me, it never fails - in hindsight it will all make sense.
Don’t try to reverse engineer it. That’s all from the pressure of the mind & leads us down the path of our conditioning. Connect inwards & then you’ll start connecting the dots outward. It is this daily devotional practice that is the foundation to create the life & change you desire.
I dive in how to decondition your mind and be in HEALTHY expression of your mind (no longer dictating your life and choices from the overthinking, monkey mind). In the podcast, I dive into:
// Exploring the Ajna Center
// Understanding Conditioning and Awareness to Rewire your Mind
// The Power of Intuition Over the Mind
// Navigating Mental Pressure and Intuition
// Embracing Uncertainty and Letting Go
// Overcoming Fear (how to feel the fear's discomfort and let it pass so it no longer holds you hostage).
// Embracing Uncomfortability for true Growth
// What it means if you have a Defined vs Undefined Ajna
YOU CAN LISTEN ON SPOTIFY HERE.
ENJOY! xx
Stop just giving your gifts away for free
I see you, you have a heart of gold and you care.
People come to you out of seemingly nowhere, because they sense that you can help them.
You love to support and guide people - you are people's first call when they need advice.
I know you desire to make a big impact and want to create a business that genuinely helps people.
The problem is, you are starting to get a little resentful and burnt out in the process of just giving it all away!
This is because it goes against the law of exchange - you need to receive for how much you give.
It's not about taking from people - but having the respect for their transformation that they take your words and time SERIOUSLY and actually implement in their lives. And you receive sustainably so you can show up time and time again.
Money is simply an exchange for solutions received. Where are you not allowing that exchange to happen because “you would do it for free”.
NEWSFLASH: This is why you should create a business for this.
I would do my current work for free, but it also isn't realistic because we have lives to pay for. Nor is it fair to either parties!
This is the reason why you need to create a sustainable business that supports you helping people and making an impact. YOU need to receive abundantly for the gifts you have - it's natural divine energy movement. The solutions you give need to also receive and be sustained.
Picture this: 6 weeks from now in full clarity, confidence and peace knowing that you are in your power and purpose - creating your dream business and attracting clients that are MADE for your offerings. You are able to go all in as you have deep understanding and embodiment of how to make it happen, YOUR way. You are full of fire & momentum with your action plan to make your desires & impact happen. You feel supported and resourced to LAUNCH into the world!
I GUARANTEE you will feel clear and confident in launching your soul offering, and have the practical foundations to attract your dream clients and consistent revenue.
This is why I have created the Advanced Human Design Certification and Create Space.
These are more than just a self development or business courses - you will TRANSFORM in the process. You will no longer doubt your value, your contribution or your money making abilities - you will be soaring into your biggest expansion!
Imagine 6 weeks from now and FINALLY having your business off the ground 🚀
Will you join us?
Energy Centers in Human Design
BY FAR, my favourite part of Human Design that gives us the most valuable, tangible information and awareness of our true self vs conditioned self energy is the energy centers (besides the energy type & authority of course).
But oddly enough, I have noticed that it is the least spoken about online. Expect if you have been in my spaces of course.
Any perpetual frustration, anger, bitterness, disappointment, burn out or feelings of being lost & confused is often because we are stuck in our conditioned beliefs & behaviours. But most don't even realise it! We might be blaming our boss or partner or family. When really, it's because we are trying to force something or living (forcing) in a way that isn't true or aligned for us.
But when we become aware of our conditioning, we can change it. If we aren't aware, we remain on autopilot and keep perpetuating what we say we don't want.
Enter: the knowledge of the energy centers. It breaks down our conditioning so it is tangible, bite size and approachable to start to our process of letting go and rewiring our brain & corresponding behaviour.
The students in my certification share that it is often the biggest part that moves the needle forward in their lives and in their client's lives & businesses.
So I wanted to create a free resource for you all within the ENERGY CENTER SERIES on the podcast. Each energy center has a theme, and I am going to deep dive into each.
SACRAL ENERGY CENTER: DECONDITIONING YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH WORK
Today, we dropped the sacral center podcast - all about life force creative energy, working, pleasure, desire. GREAT LISTEN! It is all about connecting & following your gut as a Generator & MG and how important that is in creating your impact on the world & drawing in your people. For the non-sacrals, it is about working differently, moving intuitively, preventing (and recovering from) burnout, importance of presence and how slowing down will actually create MORE success (mindblowing I know) and all the strategies I have created to get more out of your time. If you struggle to slow down and rest without guilt - this is a MUST LISTEN!
IDENTITY ENERGY CENTER: DECONDITIONING YOUR IDENTITY & DIRECTION
Last week, we kicked off with the Identity Center - the center that I have most needed to decondition and have created my life's work around that experience.
If you have ever asked yourself “Who am I?” “What is my purpose or direction”. Or resonate with moments in your life of feeling lost, inauthentic, stuck in places or jobs that don't feel good to you, pretending in a role or feeling like you have gone down someone else's direction. Ahem, me with law. Take a listen. You will learn all about the conditioning of the defined and undefined identity center and how to start creating YOUR aligned direction. I also share my take on purpose. You can listen here!
Remember your deconditioning is a process that is like an onion - peeling layer by layer as it presents. The Universe will always present you invitations in your life experience when it is time to unravel something specific. It's not something to rush or think you need to tackle in a day, or even a year.
If you would like to learn MORE about this incredible, indispensable guidance tool, check out the Advanced Human Design Certification.
Time & Pressure: Root Center
I want to talk about time and how we spend it. I know that for many, even that statement can create a ripple of anxiety. I see and hear so many people in my sessions share that they feel like they are running out of time. There is this pressure but it ultimately doesn't create positive feelings or action. It creates overwhelm, procrastination or defeat that their time has passed.
GOSH it couldn't be further from the truth!!
You know that thing that is “too big” or “would take too long” to do? It’s never too late to give it a go.
No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress, you are still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying.
You miss every opportunity or possibility that you never give a chance. That’s my definition of actually failing. There is no better time than now.
When we perceive that a HUGE mountain needs to be climbed to get somewhere, it can feel too daunting to start. But really, you don’t have to tackle the mountain top in one day or one season. It’s called life’s work for a reason - there is no final destination, just an extensive portfolio of how you decided to play with life.
You can start, make some headway, take a detour, get back on track, enjoy the view, celebrate your progress, rest, then onto the next peak.
Whether it is establishing a new home, starting a new career or job, launching a project, moving through a fear, changing your relationship to others or yourself. It doesn’t matter how long it may take, when you start taking steps to chip at it, it’ll happen. It has to! And it will happen quicker than you think - we over-inflate what we think it will take when momentum moves pretty quick once you actually start.
Slow progress is better than no action at all.
You have time to change your mind.
You have time to start again.
You have time to learn a new skill.
You have time to reinvent your career.
You have time to find out what you want.
You have time to create your vision.
You have time to live differently to how you do now.
You have time to quit your job & create your thing.
You have time to change your identity & path 10x over.
What you don’t have time for ~ worrying that you missed your chance. Fearing that you’ll run out of time.
Your life is happening while you wish you were further along.
It’s all happening even while you’re wishing it was something different.
Yes, life is short but it’s also very long. It’s never too late. You’ll waste precious time if you think that way.
But you DO need to start creating change if you want change. You can't create difference if you keep perpetuating sameness. You need to CREATE the SPACE for you to work out what your thing is. And most often than not, it means following and exploring what you are curious and excited in.
CREATE YOUR ALIGNED CAREER AND SHARE WHAT TRANSFORMED YOU: The Advanced Human Design Certification Now Enrolling.
ARE YOU CREATING YOUR LIFE OR BUSINESS FROM YOUR NOT SELF CONDITIONING OR YOUR TRUE SELF INTUITIVE UNIQUE EXPRESSION?
How to know?
One will lead to frustration, bitterness, anger, disappointment (Not Self repercussions). The other will lead to satisfaction, success, peace, flow & surprise (True Self expansion).
The most important & valuable part of the HD experiment is deconditioning. It removes all the behaviors & ways you are creating a life experience that you say you *don’t* want. So you are left with your true essence & intuitive strategy to create what you *do* want - with minimum effort & maximum satisfaction.
We can look to the energy centers to target the self-sabotaging conditioned behaviors that are stopping us from creating an easeful, successful business & life.
When you actively empty out what is holding you stuck & back - you MAGNETISE what is rightfully yours. We can look specifically to (just a few of 9 energy centers):
// Heart (Self worth): Instead of always pushing yourself to work harder, do more, give more value - you can sit back in confidence that your offerings are not only valuable, but transform people’s lives (and your self sacrifice & over-giving doesn’t make the offer better). No more lack of boundaries or being constantly available that leads to burn out or resentment.
// Ajna (Understanding): You no longer stuck in logic & trying to prove that your intuitive nudges are right before acting. You create a trust muscle & leverage your logic for strategy & your intuition for guidance.
// Solar Plexus (Emotions): You have greater awareness of what is for you to take on, and what is not. You have a greater capacity to hold clients because you are more resourced with boundaries & processes that protect YOU.
// Sacral & Root (life force drive & stress): You are no longer working so damn hard for little return. You move intentionally & smartly so that you move the needle forward in a meaningful way that attracts clients, rather than just push for more.
Sustainable success comes from your True Self, NOT your Not Self.
Don’t stay in the same self-sabotaging behaviors I see so many do:
Believing their mind as fact so never trusting where their intuitive voice is nudging them towards
Working incredibly hard for little return, and just keep pushing harder hoping for change
Listening to their conditioning and cookie-cutter advice, over finding their way to do work & life
Feeling stuck making someone else successful and feel anything but soulfully successful themselves
Recreating something that they have seen before because they feel disconnected from their own creative expression
Feeling unsupported and alone in their journey - not reaching out for support
Staying small and in the safe zone, but feeling burnt out and frustrated
Not having the full clarity so staying still in analysis paralysis
Overgiving and overdelivering without strategy or understanding how to best show up
ARE YOU OPERATING FROM THE VOICE OF YOUR CONDITIONING NOT SELF OR TRUE SELF?
ROOT CENTER
Instead of asking, “Have I ticked everything off my to- do list today?”
Ask: “Have I connected with myself & my surroundings mindfully today and moved the needle forward on what matters most?” ˆKnowing I can’t do everything & shouldn’t.
SACRAL
Instead of asking, “Have I been productive enough to earn a rest?”
Ask: “Have I rested enough to be energised to show up meaningfully & purposefully?”
AJNA
Instead of asking, “How can I find all the answers & be 100% certain this will all work out?”
Ask: “How can I embrace inevitable uncertainty & still move forward intuitively?” Because that’s where the goodness & expansion I seek lies.
HEART
Instead of asking, “What more can I do to prove that my work is worthy & value to people?”
Ask: “How can I see the value I give and believe when people tell me that I have helped them? I am not here to save anyone to be valuable, nor should I.
SOLAR PLEXUS
Instead of asking, “How can I help, please & take the pain of everyone that comes to me?”
Ask: “Am I resourced with clear boundaries of how I can help this person?” Because only then can I show up sustainably for them.
SPLEEN
Instead of asking, “Why am I always feeling unwell - what products or supplements do I need to buy?”
Ask: “Am I holding onto something that needs to be released? How can I create deeper connection, safety & ease with my body?”
HEAD
Instead of asking, “What do I want to create?”
Ask: “What inspiring spaces can I put myself in that makes it inevitable to create?”
THROAT
Instead of asking, “What is the perfect statement to say right now for people to think I am smart & know what I am talking about?”
Ask: “Can I release the pressure & trust that the perfect words for that person come when they are meant to be spoken?" I just need to be present & tapped in.
IDENTITY
Instead of asking, “Who am I & what is my one-line lifetime purpose mission statement?”
Ask: “I am an expansive being who is in her purpose when creating my own direction in the present - so how does my energy want to be used today? Because that’s how my purpose unfolds.
We are launching sustainable businesses that factor in YOU in CREATE SPACE. Not a generic business course that leaves you with more questions than answers. You will be supported in creating a business that leverages your strengths, gifts & energetic way to MAKE it HAPPEN - with ease & spaciousness.
I will be there with you EVERY step of the way - guiding, holding you accountable, not just being your cheerleader but someone who will call it how I see it. All with love and the best intentions to help you start making moves and creating your desires. I don't want another minute go past of you working so damn hard for little fulfillment or revenue - you have another way!
What energy are you inviting into your life?
We get to choose the energy we bring into our lives. How we do one thing is often how we do everything. We see the world through our own eyes, stories, perceptions, preferences, biases - it’s not reality. But the beauty is, we can change the way we operate in the world.
We set the intention and our job is to be ready, open & aware as we move through the world and create from that place. Where you put your intention, energy goes and expands. It’s never other people or circumstances stopping us or making us feel a certain way, it’s all our mind. And it’s not as smart as you think, all that worrying & stress about things that will never happen. There are no limits in this world, except in your mind.
This is where YOU get to set the tone of how you would like to show up in work and life.
In order to invite in new energy, we need to release all that isn’t serving us.
Don’t stay in the same self-sabotaging behaviors I see so many do:
Believing their mind as fact so never trusting where their intuitive voice is nudging them towards
Working incredibly hard for little return, and just keep pushing harder hoping for change
Listening to their conditioning and cookie-cutter advice, over finding their way to do work & life
Feeling stuck making someone else successful and feel anything but soulfully successful themselves
Recreating something that they have seen before because they feel disconnected from their own creative expression
Feeling unsupported and alone in their journey - not reaching out for support
Staying small and in the safe zone, but feeling burnt out and frustrated
Not having the full clarity so staying still in analysis paralysis
Overgiving and overdelivering without strategy or understanding how to best show up
^ If you give your energy to these, it’ll only create frustration & resentment in your life.
This is where you get to draw the line in the sand of what you are inviting into your life.
If I think about all the good that has happened in my life, many (if not most) came when my “plans” fell apart. What I’ve learnt is to not resist or force, but get curious and surrender. Even if you don’t feel it while it’s happening, there’s always something on the other side.
You get to choose what energy you invite in - it just takes you being so firm in what it is. And when you are tested (which you will be), you always come back to your intention - it’s your guiding force, not the outside world.
Peace is not about dissolving issues or pain. Inner peace is always there even when difficulties arise. It’s returning back to yourself time & time again, as life takes us through our lessons.
I am incredibly excited to start turning your ideas and visions into reality in Create Space. You will receive the support & guidance of how to create consistent return on your gifts & offerings. It’ll be focused on business creation - all supported on the personalized foundation of your Human Design so you can be sure you are setting it up right from the beginning.
Signature Self: How to know if you are on the ‘right’ track
I often hear, how do I know if it is the right decision for me?
Or how do I know if I am on the right track?
Short answer: Your body will tell you.
Long answer: Your intuition is always guiding you moment to moment and what is right for you will always feel resonant and expansive in your body in the present. You will feel a return on your energy investment - maybe not externally instantly but you will feel an internal flow of energy moving through your body in a satisfying, meaningful way.
Believe it or not, the answers never come from a heady, overthinking, logical place. It isn't if you have the bulletproof plan or that it looks good on paper - it is how it FEELS in your body in the present moment. Because NOW is all we have.
When does the future happen? It happens in the present.
When did the past happen? It happened in the present.
We only have the feeling and somatic sensations of the now to guide us. And these add up moment to moment to create your path and life as a whole. Our body is always giving us feedback, we just need to know how to listen and decipher what it is saying. Instead of looking for external validation that we are doing well.
So this is why we have our “Signature Self” in Human Design to give us understanding of when we are on track. (Or how I like to call the Soul Self - check out last week's podcast all about connecting with the Soul - it's a goodie!!). It is the bio-feedback from your body when you are living true to your strategy and authority (aka your intuition and sustainable energy flow). It's how you ACTUALLY answer the question of “am I on the right track?”
In reverse, our “Not Self” of frustration, anger, bitterness or disappointment is biofeedback from our body that we need to come back into connection with ourselves, our strategy and our intuitive authority. This is not about shaming or judging ourselves, but getting curious. It might just need to be a small tweak where you aren't giving yourself some time alone, or you are continuously overdoing it.
Don't get me wrong, there will always be challenges in our lives - this is how we grow and evolve. But perpetually being in your Not Self day in and day out is not a life to live. It should feel satisfying or successful (depending on your signature) to move through the challenge and hardship once you do.
Here are some ways to know if you are connected with your Signature:
GENERATOR: Life in my signature of Satisfaction
I no longer ask what the world needs, instead I ask what makes me come alive & do that - because that's when I am most of service. What the world needs is more people who have come alive. I realise it's not so much what I say or do, but the energy & feeling I invoke in others. I follow what feels right in my body, rather than what makes sense in my mind. When I feel frustrated, I see it as a sign that I need to return to my gut and get curious. I feel deeply satisfied when I sink my teeth in & accomplish what is on my heart. Life has become an exercise of how much fun can I have. When I lift myself up, I lift everyone around me and the impossible becomes inevitable.
MANIFESTING GENERATOR: Life in my signature of Satisfaction
I have thrown out the rule book. I no longer subscribe to how life "should" look so it''s turning out better than expected. I move at my own pace, even if it is faster than others. When I do what expands me, the world around me expands also. My joy gives others joy. When something starts to bog me down, I release it. Never letting my energy stagnate by forcing something that is no longer for me. My 'NO' is just as powerful as my 'YES!' When I trust my gut instinct, I am steered to exactly where I am meant to be. I don't question or judge when I feel called to something new or to change directions, I know that I am being guided to something bigger & better. When I embrace my fast-moving ever-evolving process, I am alive in my true state of creative freedom and expression. I am proof that work & play can be intertwined.
MANIFESTOR: Life in my signature of Peace
I have full creative freedom over how my life looks & feels. I birth whatever is bursting through me at any given moment. I follow my urges without questioning how it will be received. My chosen people accept me as I am and celebrate all that I am creating. I no longer try to be anything other than who I am. When moments of doubt or anger present, I come back to my truth, release what needs to be let go of and devote back to my vision. I move at my own rhythm, never forcing my creativity when the inspiration or energy isn't there. I take advantage of the spurts of energy & rest when they are not. Rest is a part of my creative process. I understand that my purpose is revealed every time I open my mouth & speak from the heart.
PROJECTOR: Life in my signature of Success
I have as much space in my day for stillness as I do stimulation. I have found my sweet spot: doing what i love, what I am naturally good at and what the world needs. The small moments of presence & recognition feel just as good as the bigger ones. I no longer constantly push for more, and instead see the value I already bring. I share freely, feel seen & recognised for my expertise, with nothing to prove. I have autonomy over my days & accept only aligned invitations. I am always reaching greater depth & layers in my mastery. While, resting guilt-free. I have created my soul family who see, get me, better me & are bettered by me. My successful life is one where I have released the pressure to be anything other than who I am.
REFLECTOR: Life in my signature of Surprise
I live authentically as myself moment-to-moment. I accept myself today, without needing to define myself tomorrow. I don't live in a future I have no business in trying to control. Instead I create space to be surprised, inspired and in awe of how miraculous life can be. Whenever I feel off or disappointed, I reflect back on how I may have lost my way down another person's path. I have learnt to no longer mould to other people's expectations & instead withdraw from any environments that no longer feel healthy to me. I feel connected with my home & people. They see the wisdom I hold deep within my bones. Life feels like an adventure with endless possibilities & paths to explore. I take my time because there is no rush.
HAVE YOU LISTENED TO LAST WEEK'S PODCAST ON CONNECTING WITH YOUR SOUL VOICE?
THIS is your Signature Self, or your Soul Self.
Your body is always communicating to you on the health of your Soul.
We just need to listen and give ourselves the same love and care.
Feeling in limbo in the in-between
So many of us experience moments in life where we feel neither quite here nor there — having neither departed nor arrived. Being in limbo, the space in-between or in ‘nothingness’ is a right of passage when moving into your aligned life. With greater awareness and no longer on auto-pilot, you might begin shifting old patterns and letting go of what no longer fits but not yet sure what does.
There is deep wisdom & potential in allowing space for the ‘in between’ — for sitting with what is, what is no longer and what could be.
If you are feeling this, I want to remind you that you are exactly where you are meant to be. This space is such an important part of becoming more You. I know cliche, but it's an important reminder when we get so much pressure to rush, figure it all out and “know everything” beforehand.
An element of unknown is a criteria of intuitive living. But in our world of busyness, productivity and instant gratification tells us to forge full-steam ahead. In other words: Get through it as fast as possible. A pressure to have life all figured out in a perfect box with bow.
It can be a tender place in letting go & moving forward. But these life junctures are a gift. It is fertile ground where thoughts, ideas and inspirations are born. The change you were asking for.
You might be asking yourself, Who even am I? What am I doing? Where am I going? What is my place in the world? Just remember this isn’t something to figure out from the mind, but allow your body to begin to show you, in time, in its own way. Lean into trusting your authority today, without it needing to prove for tomorrow. We are all just constantly evolving more and more into our deepest, truest selves.
Don’t fall pressure to filling the empty space by settling or reverting back. This time will set the tone of the storyline that will play out for the rest.
Remember why you are doing this. Your future self will be grateful for your bravery. Get to know your new version of self as they present, like a third person. What does your future self like, want, desire today? Get to know the real, can feel “new” You.
Take this time to be in receiver discovery mode. To feel what is left unfelt in your body. To hibernate & come back to yourself. To anchor in your intuition in the present. Knowing very well that there is light at the end of the limbo tunnel. Your time will come again, and it is already here right now.
We all know that hindsight is 20/20, but could we give ourselves permission to simply sit in unknowingness until we arrive there?
It’s okay not to know what’s next.
It’s okay to feel the uncertainty & fear.
It’s okay to trust that all is well & this is a necessary part of your expansion.
You are supported, loved and will land on two grounded feet again. There will be times that we must walk through the space of limbo to get there. For now, love yourself through your ‘in betweens’ with the knowingness that it’s all okay. It’s all a part of this journey through the human experience, and you will be so grateful you held yourself through it.
Suggestions during this time:
Find safety in the unknown: ground into your intuition, remind yourself how loved you are in your relationships, that you have a roof over your head, people that want to support you, capabilities that will always be fruitful - you always have abilities to fall back on
Be in curious discovery mode: Be present and follow the Universe’s stimulus offering clues via your body’s response
Dare to choose different, decondition your thoughts and give yourself permission to shift your story
Remember you asked for this change, come back to gratitude of how far you’ve come and that you are in a space to create change
Be a passenger to your intuitive body, it is driving the ship: take the breadcrumbs as they appear without pressure of understanding “why” in the grand scheme of things
Get out of your mind, and into your body DAILY: whatever practices work for you
Have anchor points and structure in the unknown - friend, work out class, meditation, breathwork, practices that support you
Look to your human design for reconfirmation and clues - it can show you where to focus your energy and where your strengths are (should you forget)
Make a recording or journal entry to remind you why you are doing this (for any moments of doubt)
Trust and be kind to yourself, no matter what!
Gate 63 of Doubt in Human Design
The sun is currently in Gate 63 of “Doubt” which brings a sense of skepticism and potential distrust in yourself and the world around you. Many feel like they are in a cloud - feeling pressure to gain clarity, doubting themselves, second guessing decisions and overall feeling ungrounded and uncentered. A common theme of asking “what is this even all for?” “do I have what it takes?” “is this even worth it?”. ESPECIALLY if things aren’t panning out as quickly as you had hoped.
You may just be finding yourself trying to make sense of things from the past, or obsessing on “how” things are going to happen in the future. It is (sadly) a common occurrence during transitions to doubt if it is not all happening right away. Thinking that it means you're meant to be doing this. This was a belief I once had but let me tell you, it's not how the world works. Especially if you expect it to just fall in your lap. Life requires you to take action towards your vision and be in the energy of what you wish to create. It's not about forcing, but taking aligned inspired action. While being patient in becoming a person you haven't been before.
Self doubts are just fears to protect you from loss, failure, rejection. Yet the irony is that, doubt often makes you lose out on what you may have gained by fearing the attempt. Your doubts are not the truth. Rather they are fear-fuelled stories you create about who you are, what you’re worth and what you’re capable of achieving. Most often than not, your doubts are the opposite of truth.
This is the time to really anchor into your practices that help you feel connected to yourself and stay in your trust. Self trust and confidence is not about being perfect or doing all the right things. It is trying something outside of your comfort zone, and knowing that you will still have your own back when you are not perfect. Let yourself be new, be a beginner, start something for the first time.
The worst thing is not taking any aligned action due to doubt of your own capabilities. If right now you are extra overthinking, self doubt or asking “what the hell am I even doing?”. Especially if you're in periods of change & transition. Be kind to yourself, you're human in these times. This does not mean your project, work or people are wrong for you. Let this moment of questioning pass and stay rooted in your knowing & vision. Don't burn it all down. Your inner intuition is your guide, not your overthinking monkey mind.
Make Your Mission Bigger Than Your Fear.
Get clear on your why to find the courage needed to step through doubts and risk failing.
Mind vs Intuition: Come back to your Strategy & Authority. If you have an intuitive nudge calling you somewhere, it's because there is something there for you. Don't let the doubt talk you out of it - you are more than capable!
Nourish and nurture yourself now. Anchor into your intuition. This will pass, you've got this. This is the time you can experiment with your creativity and inspiration - open your mind and explore your curiosities. Start to make aligned inspired action forward and show your body that you can step into the unknown. This is where your confidence is built - disproving your mind’s stories by doing the scary thing and SURVIVING (or better yet, thriving).
What would the empowered, self-believing version of yourself move through the world? Do exactly that, because that's your true essence, not the fear blocking it. Thank your doubts for trying to protect you, then tell them you’re not here to live a safe life, you’re here to live the biggest life you are capable of living. Then put your hand on your heart, picture your success, take a big long breath and then JUST DO IT! As research has found and experience has taught me, every time you take action in the presence of your doubts you dilute their power and amplify your own.
How to make decisions from your intuition and not your mind
Not think about a decision or an emotion or a fear, but FEEL in your body.
This is a question we should ask ourselves in ANY decision.
It is the most life-changing way to move through the world.
How does your relationships feel in your body? How does your daily routine feel in your body? How does showing up to your work feel in your body? How does that new possibility feel in your body?
Sadly, many rarely ask themselves that. Or validate and listen to what it is saying.
Maybe just maybe, if you leave a friend meeting & feel drained, or you show up to work with a pit in your stomach - that it might not be a place to invest your energy.
And maybe just maybe if you feel excited, interested, curious or energised - then you should be going more of exactly that!
Instead of just answering about a decision or speaking about a situation/dynamic on a cognitive level straight from the mind. Stop, pause, close your eyes (to detach from the world) and tune into your intuition. Envision the possible decision (as though anything is possible), do you feel a constriction in your body? Anxiety? Excitement? Curiosity? Expansion? Peace? Calm?
THIS IS YOUR INTUITION, and it's trying to show you the REAL answer of your next step.
Too often we feel like the answers are outside of us - in another person, in a sign or even based on “logical” norms.
This is why I believe so many people feel lost and disconnected from themselves, because they don’t realize that they have a navigation compass within.
The problem is, we think that the clarity comes when a lightening bolt strikes us with certainty of what to do. This very rarely, if ever, happens. So we just stay waiting and put things off another month, year or decade.
Your intuition is simply a often subtle internal response and feedback. It is bio-feedback of what to add in more of, and what to begin to let go of.
Scanning our body for tightness, emotion, specific sensations whenever you envision or have a decision to make, can help provide insight into your next steps moving forward.
Excitement, enthusiasm, joy, curiosity, expansion, potential = more of this, move towards this. Dread, drained, constriction, pit in your stomach, boredom, feeling trapped = less of this, start to begin to let these things go.
No one outside you is the keeper of all the right answers, not even your therapist or coach. No one knows what is best for you, except you. All these people’s role is to help you make decisions based on your true self, and much of that can be tapped into through noticing how our body responds.
This is how I guide others and also teach in my Certification. Your ideas based on your intuition are always the best, and I love that the clients I have in m space are empowered in that way - no one is looking to be saved.
Often if one has experienced anxiety or illness, it can be hard to trust your body. It can feel like you vs your body. But it is not against you, it is guiding you and wants to heal. There can be a fear of tuning in and feeling emotions because it can be overwhelming.
But by bringing awareness to how our body responds in our present moment we are breaking the cycle of being controlled by external feedback and disconnection to our intuition. You are connecting deeper to yourself.
We need to ask ourselves this question, “how does it feel in my body?” more. For example, if you force something in your routine you don't want to do, or leave that friend feeling shitty, or show up to work full of dread - your body is telling you, please less of this or change this.
Or when you have big curiosity and excitement when you share what you newly learnt to your partner.
NONE of this is by accident. THIS IS YOUR INTUITION. It's not so big and tricky to connect to.
Build a relationship with your body and your life will change forever.
Take a moment now, close your eyes, and feel into a decision you have been weighing up - HOW DOES IT FEEL IN YOUR BODY? Rinse and repeat for the rest of your life :)
Gate 19 in Human Design
Just because your words, presence and energy heals, doesn’t necessarily mean that everyone should have access to it.
Hi loves
I recently read the above sentiment and it felt very resonate with this week's energy transit with the Sun moving through Gate 19. As usual, the transits invite us to look within and how this archetypal energy is present within us. This gate brings an energy and highly intuitive, sensitive, empathetically attuned knowing to others. So this one is for my fellow intuitive feelers.
If you are feeling called to read on, I presume that you are someone who is finely attuned to others - their emotions, needs and energy shifts. If someone walks into a room, you can feel almost instantly if something is off. They don’t even have to say anything, and you can feel it. This energetic sensitivity is your superpower, when it is boundaried and balanced.
It feels meaningful for you to help, support and hold space for another’s needs - and you are extremely good at it. While this is a beautiful part of you, it is important to remember that just because you can be there for someone, solve a problem or support them in their process, it doesn’t mean you should always overextend and do all those things. You are not responsible, I repeat, not responsible for other people’s peace and happiness. Especially if you are self-sacrificing yourself in the process. Please please don't put your own needs at the bottom of your priorities.
You only can take on so much. Just because you care, it doesn't mean you should carry all the weight.
What are your core authentic needs? Are they being met?
During this time, take note of any emotional and intuitive senses you are experiencing, especially clarity on your own needs. For many women, we can prioritise other people’s needs and forget to even turn inward and ask what our needs are. And then wonder why we feel unfulfilled in our lives.. You are deserving of your needs to be met. I remember I used to be so shameful of having needs for fear that I would be perceived as “needy”. It meant that I never felt satisfied in my relationships and always felt taken for granted and unappreciated. In reality, I never voiced or acknowledged that I even had needs.
This can be a beautiful time to reflect what your soul needs and desires are in relationships, work and life. Especially in our relationship with ourselves, because this is the foundation of everything. To help, you can ask yourself the below questions:
How do I feel about how I’m currently taking care of myself?
Where do I feel fulfilled most? (How can you maximise and prioritise these more).
Where do I feel empty or burnt out? (How can you minimise these, set healthy boundaries or have honest communication with yourself around why you continue to do these things).
Where would I like to invest my time and energy in more?
What are the top three activities that help me feel grounded and regulated? (How can you incorporate these more).
What are the top three activities that bring me joy and make me feel alive? (Incorporate these into your weekend, week or month).
What activities, beliefs and behaviors am I saying yes to that I’d actually like to let go? (Contributing to what you say you don't want).
What activities, beliefs and behaviors am I saying no to that I’d actually like to adopt?
What boundaries do I need to set to protect my time and myself?
At the end of each day what do I wish I had done? (Less thinking of conditioned efficiency and productivity, and more about what makes you feel alive, nourished and fulfilled).
When it comes to the energy of this week, it is asking us to reflect on where we are energetically being leaky and not honouring our own emotional wellbeing. You may need to establish boundaries most importantly with yourself - what you are willing and not willing to take on. We don’t want to get to the place of creating co-dependent, reliant relationships or feeling emotionally burnt out - it will just lead you on a fastback to your Not Self of frustration, bitterness, resentment or anger. It can also blur the lines of your own personal identity and mean that you are unsure of what is yours and what is theirs.
Remember that you don't need to self sacrifice for the sake of your work or relationships. Be your own support person my love.
Love, Hillary xx
BIG 2024 ENERGY
Feeling this strong activation energy? Its not just because it’s the New Year, the sun is currently transiting through Gate 54 of Ambition and Earth in Gate 53 of Beginnings - the names say it all!
These gates originate from the Root which brings strong driving momentum to start, create, take action and believe in the possibility. This transit invites us to explore the depths of our ambitions and aspirations, encouraging us to align with our truest selves.
Revolutionary at NY, I know. But really, take this opportunity to set intentions as you'll feel less heavy or burdened by past stories and excuses. This transit is inspiring us to rise up and transform into OUR way - it champions authenticity, taking risks & beginning new things that align with us.
Although I am not a resolutions girl, I do like to set an intentional word (if one comes through, never forced). My word for 2024 is Inspire ~ it came through so strongly and I'm having fun fleshing out what that will mean. Be inspired by the world & people around me, call in greater inspiration & expansion, support my clients towards their biggest year and inspire myself by taking the risks & going for it.
As always, this energy is best connected to intentionally and without too much pressure. Ground into your body, your strategy and your authority when making any decisions. Your gut and intuition is your internal compass - not the rush and pressure that the New Year can bring.
The WHY behind your visions:
Your goals are less likely to fizzle out when you are grounded in your why. What is the reason behind your goal and the feeling you wish to embody behind it all?
Break them down:
If it feels “too big” then it can be overwhelming and we procrastinate. Confidence and momentum hapens in the movement. Start small, what is one thing you can do to get closer to what you envision?
Trust your Authority:
Your gut, intuition and instincts are always guiding you, never the fear of your mind. Release the pressure to know all the steps, just the next one that’s available to you.
Be Patient:
Gate 54 can be prone to giving up too quickly when results aren't instant. Be patient in what you are creating, we can often get frustrated if it doesn’t happen NOW. Give yourself time to develop and allow your vision happen - it's very rarely an overnight thing. Enjoy the process, don't rush to the destination - that's not where your relief or happiness lies.
Be in support of community:
If you desire change, it's important to have support and likeminded community around you, especially those who can vision hold for you. It expands you and helps you believe it is possible for you.
Learn something new:
This is also a powerful time to start to learn or begin something new - you never ever regret learning something that develops you as a person. Your curiosities are your clues. It is what life is all about.
When starting something, find power in being a beginner, even if you're not the first or the “best” - be careful not to convince yourself out of something because you believe other people are further ahead of you. There are billions of people on their planet, there are humans that are directly connected to you, your message and your (future) creations. Learning and beginning something totally new is a humbling and brave thing to do - be proud of yourself for taking the leap and don't put pressure on yourself to be “perfect” right away.
Gate 64 of “Confusion” and Gate 63 of “Doubt”: Release the pressure to “know” right now, just stay open and curious. Surrender. Clarity is coming..
Wow what a big week we have had, all that is happening in the ether right now. I have noticed in my community that people are feeling like they are in a cloud - feeling pressure to gain clarity, while feeling ungrounded and uncentered. This is the time to really anchor into your practices that help you feel connected to yourself - mine is always nature, slowing down and getting quiet.
HUMAN DESIGN TRANSIT UPDATE:
The sun is currently in Gate 64 of “Confusion” and Gate 63 of “Doubt”. Don't worry this is not all doom and gloom!! You may just be finding yourself trying to make sense of things from the past, or obsessing on “how” things are going to happen in the future. There is this energy/pressure right now to break through confusion to gain clarity. So if there is anything uncertain or unknown in your life right now, you may feel this pressure to figure it all out - by yesterday. Forcing clarity prematurely.
Witness this pressure but don’t act on it. It’s not fact or a voice to follow from a panicked place. In Human Design, we don’t make decisions from this mental pressure of the mind. It is about bypassing this mental chatter and honing into your body & heart’s most trusted decision maker - your Authority. Ask yourself, “Am I overthinking this? Or sensing it intuitively?” Big difference.
Confusion is always a transitionary moment before realisations and answers hit. We need this time to ponder, contemplate, look at all sides, process what is coming up, & feel into your intuition/authority for ultimate decision making. Don’t force a decision from mental pressure. During this time, make sure not to get stuck in “what if’s” from the past or future. Make peace with what happened and release the pressure to figure everything out, as soon as confusion arises. See where your intuition is getting hijacked by that persuasive monkey mind. Come back into your body & Authority. This is your decision maker. The answers are coming.
If right now you are extra overthinking, self doubt or asking “what the hell am I even doing?”. Especially if you're in periods of change & transition. Be kind to yourself, you’re human in these times. This does not mean your project, work or people are wrong for you. Let this moment of questioning pass and stay rooted in your knowing & vision. Don’t burn it all down. Your inner intuition is your guide, not your overthinking monkey mind.
Ask yourself, “Am I overthinking this? Vs “What is my intuitive sense here?”. There is a big difference but can be hard to decipher. Mind vs Intuition: Come back to your Strategy & Authority. I recorded a podcast here on how to decipher here. Let this moment of questioning pass and stay rooted in your knowing & vision. Don’t burn it all down. Your inner intuition is your guide, not your overthinking monkey mind.
Nourish and nurture yourself now. Anchor into your intuition. This will pass, you've got this! This is the time you can experiment with your creativity and inspiration - open your mind and explore your curiosities. Nothing is a mistake, only learnings. Get creative and dream of your vision for the future.
Forks in the road appearing: Chances to change your current existence
Transit energy update on GATE 47 OF REALISATIONS below: pressure to find realisations and understandings of what is happening in your life right now.
During the middle of the night, I awoke with a strong visual of a fork in the road. I wrote it down, forgot about it, then opened my journal this morning and saw it. It got me thinking: we have hundreds of forks in the road of our life. All these mini sliding door moments that can shift our reality, just from making a different decision.
With awareness, you'll notice that as you continue to evolve and grow, what was your pre-determined path is no longer your “only” option. As you change and your mind opens, different options start to appear. You see how your pre-determined path would turn out and then you see this alternate vision or destiny.
But for many we never venture down those possibilities. We want a different existence but never make decisions that reflect that. Waiting for the big lightning bolt moment that will save us, and in the mean time living in the same habitual way as always.
When forks in the road appear, it means you have a chance to change your current existence. It’s not that we will always have these BIG forks in the road that alter our life forever. But little forks in the every day. Where we either choose an option from fear, or an option from love & potential. Acting from our mind’s pre-conceived logic vs our intuitive expansive knowing. Daily movements that either come from sameness or newness.
The Einstein quote, “you can’t solve a problem from the same mind that created it.” If you want change, it means you need to do something different. It means making the decision as your highest self, not of one riddled in fear, lack or not enough.
When a new option or potential way of being arises - instead of instantly discounting and continuing in your usual habitual way - stop, sink into your heart, be in your intuition. Do you feel an expansion in your body or a curiosity sparked? Is there something there? The answer will become clear which is the decision of your higher self. The mind will do its usual thing and give you a plethora of reasons why not to. But start to experiment in this space of the unknown and intrigue.
When we are wanting to create change, we need to reflect that in all small acts - whether that means we start creating positive daily habits, making decisions from our intuition or investing what will benefit your evolution. Little forks show up everywhere: you get to decide whether you continue to act from the same energy or try that new way of being.
How can you start making decisions daily from your intuition? And less be ruled by your mind's fear. I recently recorded podcasts on this if you'd like to dive in further.
Transit energy update:
We currently have transits with sun in gate 47 of “realisations” and earth in gate 22 of “grace”. There is pressure to get straight to the realisation or understanding to make sense with what is happening in your world right now. You may be finding yourself thinking esoterically and big picture, wondering why things haven’t worked out and if they are even meant for you. Be easy on yourself, especially if this is fueled by an overthinking mind.
Allow yourself to be open to the trickles of understanding & insight that may be coming through. Prioritise connecting within, creating space and quietening your mind so your intuitive voice can speak through. Don't overthink this, you're just being open and curious. Stop waiting for the big realisations and see the little bits of understanding that is coming through. If things are not flowing how you’d like, how can you shift up your energy around it? You are being called to different aligned action. I am ramping up my meditation and journalling this week. Trust in the timing of your aha’s, insights and clarity.
With gate 22 in earth, there is an element of leaning into your emotional truth right now. You may find yourself moving from a sense of peaceful sureness in accepting where you are, to being in a more moody, melancholic hopelessness. Take some time for you to process what has been coming up and happening in the past few BIG weeks. Allow the full spectrum of your emotions to move through you - none of it is “bad”, none of it is “good”. It is just you as a human experiencing - release release release. Let the energy move through you - I have a podcast to help on this here.
Let this week be where you are open to seeing what isn't working and what is. Sink into where you can make aligned action from an intuitive place. What small decisions can you make as your highest self? Which alternative forks in the road are presenting themselves? Is there a possibility you can choose an alternate option than what you would habitually do from fear or sameness?
How would your choices look if you were an embodiment of your highest self now.
Transit energy update: Sun in Gate 6 calling us for a deeper connection and intimacy with ourselves.
Dropping your defences: Let there be nothing you can't admit to yourself
Right now we are being called to be radically honest with ourselves. To drop our defences and be open, vulnerable and truthful. We currently have a transit in Gate 6, which embodies the gift of creating intimacy and vulnerability with others. As I am writing this, I am feeling called to invite us all to create a deeper, realer and more intimiate relationship with ourselves.
This transit is generating greater self awareness of our emotional experience, and to notice the seeds of inner conflict or turbulence that could be inhibiting our own inner peace. No longer having blind spots or even turning a blind eye on our most vulnerable, fragile fragments of self. Being so curious, open and loving that there is nothing you can't admit. When you are this inviting, forgiving and unjudgmental with yourself - true self acceptance and love is born. Showing your inner child and body that nothing will halt the unconditional love you have for yourself. From this place, you can truly heal.
Ask yourself: What inner turmoil, friction or conflict present within you? Maybe parts of yourself that you are not allowing to be expressed or emotions unprocessed. Maybe you haven't listened to your intuitive knowing, and instead bulldozed over with your mind. Maybe it is something that you know you need to look at, but are too afraid of. Maybe places where you are forcing and making things harder than they need to be. All of this self inquiry is just about being honest with yourself and having an open dialogue. You don't have to “fix” anything or act on this information. But at least your body knows it is safe to express itself.
Gate 6 originates from the solar plexus, which holds our emotional experience. This gate is a source of feelings, moods and sensitivity, so emotional friction may emerge at this time. How can you be in your experience, process and digest it all. We can get so busy that we don't take the time to give ourselves a moment to respond of how we are actually doing. When was the last time you stopped, gave yourself a long embrace and said “what do you need?”. Again this is not about “fixing” it but just honouring your real experience.
You may be questioning or thinking deeply about your relationships and the dynamics you find yourself in. Maybe a little more emotionally reactive right now. This is an invitation to be more vulnerable from the heart, rather than lashing out of fear or reactivity. Remember, your peace is internally generated, and can exist regardless of what is happening outside. Once we realise that no one can take our peace, and the only thing that can truly disturb our peace is our own fears, barriers and protective mechanisms.
When you feel your heart close, take a moment, pause and overload yourself with compassion. Be open to what it is showing you. Whenever you are triggered in relationship, get curious. This is not their wrong-doing, they are inviting you into a greater healing of a fear or internal conflict within yourself. We don't want to be fighting for things that don’t matter or projecting unresolved emotions onto others - so tread with caution here.
This week, be so raw with yourself, so loving and meet yourself fully. Remember nothing is so dire or scary that you can't at least have an open dialogue with yourself about it. Your relationship with yourself will always be most important, so create the time and space to really go there.
Sending you love!
Transiting Gate 59 & 55: Why you might be feeling a little sensitive
Right now you may be feeling it. We have significant energetic shifts happening and transits in gate 59 & 55 (more below) - that's leaving many of us feeling alive but also overwhelmed and fatigued. So rest assured, you're not alone. I've noticed that my body is craving more slowness, and less stimulation. My mind however, is most definitely not slowing down.
This is the time to start to SIMPLIFY. Watch if you are making things harder than they need to be, or searching for what is going wrong. We can create greater struggle than necessary. When we are used to cycles of stress, drama and overwhelm, our body gets stuck in fight or flight. We then subconsciously seek thought patterns and places that will create a similar cortisol / adrenaline response to make us feel at home, “normal” and alive. Then it becomes a self-perpetuating cycle of stress.
But luckily, with our awareness and regulation - that doesn't have to be our story. Choose differently. Witness when your mind begins to spiral, rather than go along for the ride. Slow down, simplify and recenter this week. Intentional actions will get you so much further than running around like a chicken with your head cut off (especially for those who also have an open root and head energy center).
Let the emotional energy pass through you, rather than creating a story around it. Regulate your body with breath & nature. Move towards the people that help you feel balanced. Give yourself more credit that you don’t need this stress to be able to show up in life. You no longer need to operate like the rug will be ripped underneath you. We’re just making life harder than it needs to be.
CURRENT HUMAN DESIGN TRANSITS:
The transits give us a sense of what we may personally expect to feel during an upcoming time period. As the transits shift and change, so does our energy and experience.
Right now, we are currently transiting gates 59 and 55, which brings a strong desire for connection, intimacy and emotional depth.
Gate 59 is all about intimacy, bond-making and honesty. Small talk and surface level connections isn't going to cut it right now. We are being called to break through barriers or walls to create a deeper bond with ourselves and others. Get honest with yourself - notice your patterns that contradict what you say you don't want. Where are you saying “yes” when it should be a “no”. This is the time to ask for support this week - be vulnerable in sharing what is happening in your world and what is alive within you. You don’t have to do it all alone.
Gate 55 is the gate of Spirit and is all about feeling the fullness of life. It is important to keep trust and optimism that what is meant to work out, will. True embodiment of this energy is the belief in abundance of all that is good and possible. Watch voices of scarcity and lack pop up - we ain't operating on that narrative. Gate 55 can also create a non-rational emotional energy of deep feeling that oscillates between experiencing the world through a lens of pain or pleasure, glass half full or half empty. Right now, do not create stories around any emotional experiences. Just witness and let the energy move through you. Being in victimhood only disempowers us.
Come back to what I mentioned earlier: simplify, ground, connect with your trusted ones. Try not to spiral in the lows and instead, let the energy move through you. Come back to the knowing that this too shall pass.
GATE 46 HUMAN DESIGN: What can your body teach your mind?
The past few days, we have been transiting with the Sun in Gate 46, which is all about embodiment and love for our physical body. You may be feeling quite tired and fatigued, depending on your cycles and season, so this is a time to invite stillness and nurture the delight that is to be in human form. Your body is what brings to life your desires, creations, connection and purpose. We need to look after and adorn it.
Embodiment is not an idea, or a theory. It is a state of being, where you feel connected and attuned to your body and senses. It is a state in which the mind listens to the body. Ultimately, it is a state of being in which the division between mind and body dissolves. It is where you are practicing what you have learnt, so that it is now your norm. For example, in my deconditioning process I needed to learn how to work as a Projector, and now it is an embodied way of being that I don't even question. Or with my emotional authority, I cry without creating a story around it. I often dance to let my emotions move through me. It isn't an active thought process anymore, it is embodied.
You feel embodiment when you drop down from your thinking mind into the feeling body. When you quieten your mind, tune into your intuitive authority and let your body guide the way. You feel embodiment when you are moving, walking, dancing, running, surfing, swimming. You feel embodiment when you feel grounded when your feet scrunch grass between your toes, or when an emotion is released from your body. You feel embodiment when you are in touch with the present moment, when you are really here now.
How can we deepen embodiment?
First, we must admit that while the mind knows things, it does not know everything. The mind is not our decision maker and Human Design connects us with our body consciousness. We then become curious: What does our body know that the mind does not? We can only discover what the body knows by an act of receptivity, by listening deeply. We are pretty good at listening to the mind - our thoughts, ideas, and opinions. But many of us have not listened much to the body, or learned its non-conceptual language.
This is the time to experiment and listen to your body. When you listen to your body in this way, you discover gems of wisdom held by your somatic field (inklings, sensations, emotions). Get still, get quiet, be open. What is your body communicating to you when you slow down, in a meditative state and it is free to communicate? Where do you feel it in your body? Any sensations present? What does your intuitive voice of your Authority give you clues on? Is there anything that needs to be released?
PONDER ON: What can the body teach the mind?
The problem I see however, is that we ignore our body's signals, push through, live from the mind and think that our answers are constantly from outside of ourselves. When really we need to connect within, tune into our own body's knowing, and integrate & make decisions from there. Remember Human Design is an experiment of connecting with YOUR body's natural wisdom and YOUR way of doing things. Not another's way of doing things.
Whether that means experimenting with following your gut this week, or directly asking your body questions & seeing the sensations that present, or just doing the things that help you ground and connect with your body. You can't do any of this wrong. It is just a portal to connect deeper with your beautiful vessel. Celebrate the delight that it is to be a Human - to hug your people, to swim in the ocean, to put your feet in freshly cut grass, to laugh with your partner - whatever make you feel alive and present.